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Down The Rabbit Hole

 

Robert Gets Me Interested

As it turned out, the little Pentecostal church that Robert and his grandparents took me to on that sunny Sunday morning was not at all what I had imagined it would be.  The night before I had chased away waves of drowsiness for at least two hours by continually conjuring up images of what I thought Pentecostal churches should look like.  Tossing and turning in my aluminum tubed rollaway bed, beads of sticky sweat rolling off my face and neck and pooling in the deep hollows my collarbones formed below my shoulders, all I seemed to be able to come up with was memories of the Catholic Church my mom and I had previously attended.

I assumed it had to be different from that in a lot of ways; for one, they didn’t have a priest, or nuns, or altar boys.  At least I didn’t think so.  When I had asked Robert to tell me about it, all he could talk about was how many girls went there and how some of them were actually pretty.  So, even though my hormones had started coming to life that year, at this point I was still pretty immune to the sexual pull of the opposite sex.  For sure I had already started to look at girls from a slightly different perspective, but I had not yet reached the “drooling when a pretty one walked by” stage.  Robert had.

He mentioned that they had a band (a band?), and most of the girls that attended the church played tambourines in accompaniment to the hymns that everyone sang.

“What kind of band?”  I asked, truly curious.

“You know, the regular kind.”  Robert said mysteriously.

“Guitars?”

“Sí.”

“Drums?”

“Sure, and trumpets, too.”  He added.

“Trumpets?  Regular bands don’t have trumpets, Robert!”  I said slightly annoyed.

“This one does…two.  And, you know what one of the trumpet vato’s name is?”  He teased.

“No, dime.”  (Tell me).

“DeLeón!”  He said, mimicking blowing a trumpet by wiggling his fingers in front of his face.

“¿De veras?” (Really?) I asked, plainly surprised.

“Sí vato”, he quipped.  “Pero he’s not your relation, ese.”

“¡Que relaje!” (How cool).  I sighed.

“¡No, ese!  El relaje son las niñas guapas que tocan las panderetas.”  (The cute chicks that play the tambourines are what are cool).  He whispered dreamily.

He really did seem to have a one-track mind nowadays.

 

Showdown At Rancho DeLeón

The sun was pouring its bright steamy Sunday morning rays of light on my face through the heavily patched screen window, causing my eyelids to squeeze a bit tighter and slowly dredging me up from the deep slumber I had finally fallen into earlier that night.  Turning my head away from the piercing glare my face sought that nice cool place on the surface of my thin pillow case and my mind raced to try to carry me back to that sweet dark place where I’d been for the last few hours.

“¡Oye, Pancho!”  The was voice coming from so far away.  “¡Pancho, levántate!” (Get up!)  My mother’s voice was insistent, but still soft enough for me to ignore.  “They’ll be here soon to pick you up to go to the church today.”

“Hmmmm….un poquito más, mamá.”  (Just a bit more.)  I heard myself say.

“FRANK!”

Oh, oh!  That was my Dad’s voice!  Twisting quickly off the sagging bed and planting my bare feet on the linoleum floor, I said, “Sí, daddy!  Ya me voy a levantar.”  (I’m getting up already!) And what the hell is he doing home?  On Sundays he was either not home from his Saturday night binge, or he was sleeping one off.  He hadn’t been home the night before when I went to bed so I’d assumed he was out partying.

With that, all thoughts of more sleep were entirely out of the question.  Usually, I could string my mother along and enjoy about another ten or fifteen minutes of that lovely morning snooze time until she finally got irritated and yelled.  But my father, well, he was not in the habit of repeating himself, and he did not yell—at least not at me.

“Come on mijo,” my mom was saying as she handed me a clean towel, “go get your bath and hurry dressing because Robert’s grandparents should be here soon.  You need to eat something too before you go.  ¡Ándale pronto!”  She chided.

Entering the small bathroom I saw that she’d laid out a pair of long dark trousers, a freshly pressed white dress shirt, and one of my father’s red silk ties.  On the floor my old brown oxfords had somehow recaptured a respectable semi-glossy sheen to the thin leather, and most of the scuffs and scratches had been transformed from grayish white gashes to deep brown shadows—and were now hardly noticeable.  My best pair of white boxers and thin white socks were folded over the pants and shirt.  No belt though.  Hmmm.  I didn’t think my khaki colored military style canvas-like belt; with its scratched and pitted fake brass finish would look very good with dress clothes.  Well, I thought, I’ll just see if I can borrow one of my dad’s belts and cinch it up good and tight.

The old tin washtub had been half filled with hot water and was sitting under the rusty faucet waiting to be cooled down to my preferred temperature.  Mom must’ve gotten up really early to heat up this much water.  I mused.

Climbing into the old yellowed lion’s claw tub I sat down gingerly, flinching as the cold porcelain met my bony butt.  Scooping the now tepid water over my head I again began to wonder what this church would be like.  Robert hadn’t provided much detail, except to prep me on where the best looking girls would be sitting.  He also said that when the congregation filed into the back area behind the altar and stage to attend the Sunday school class, the men, women, boys and girls would all go into different rooms.  Little kids usually went outside to a small playground to be minded by a couple of very old sisters of the church.  There they would recite Bible verses and sing children’s hymns while sitting in a large circle on the grass.  During bad weather they’d stay inside the building and pretty much run amok until the classes were over and the service resumed.

Having dried off and dressed I stepped out of the bathroom holding my pants up with one hand.

“Dad?”  I yelled.  “Can I borrow a belt?  Mine is too old and doesn’t really look good with these pants.”

Walking out of the bedroom (actually just an area in the two room house) he said, “I don’t think any of my belts will fit your skinny waist, but let me find one of my older ones and I’ll just cut it down and punch a hole for the buckle.”

Holding a steaming cup of coffee, he was wearing a pair of nicely pressed, but paint stained, khaki pants and a white wife beater undershirt, and with no shoes on his white-socked feet.  “¡Oye, vieja!”  (Hey old lady!) He yelled out to my mother. “Where’s that old brown leather belt of mine?”

From the kitchen area, “Look in the chester drawers, Bob!  Third one down!”  My mother, ever murdering the English language, always referred to the “chest of drawers” as “chester drawers”; along with “oh-ven” for “oven”, and “sang-wish” for “sandwich”.  Sadly, until I knew better, so did I. (sigh)

After rooting around the third drawer and throwing everything out onto the floor, he finally found the belt and triumphantly raised it over his head, trophy-like.  Striking a spread-legged pose and wiggling his eyebrows furiously he trumpeted a loud, “TA-DA!!” and strode off proudly in the direction of the kitchen.

“¡Oye, vieja!”  He yelled to my mother.  “¿Dónde está el cuchillo?”  (Where’s the knife?)

“¡JesuCristo, Bob!  She complained from the bathroom where she was cleaning up after my bath.  “¡No sabes nada!”  (You don’t know anything!)  She said with a heavy load of exasperation in her voice.  “Allí está en el drawer.  Estás blind?”

Opening the drawer that my mom had designated as: the knife (1), serving spoon (1), (two pronged serving fork (1), and can openers (2) drawer—he drew the knife out with his right hand and suddenly flew into a classic fencing stance, yelling, “TOUCHÉ!” in the direction of my mother just as she was stepping out of the bathroom.

“Oh you viejo loco,” she said in a growling voice while pointing at him with her left index finger (she was a southpaw), “I’ll bet you wish you could ‘too-che’ me!  Well, you just try it MISTER!  GO AHEAD AND TRY IT!”

“Vieja, do you  know what “touché means?”  My dad said tilting his head while sheathing his make believe foil in his make believe scabbard.

“Of course I know, tonto,” she said smugly.  “You want to touch me with that knife!  Pero, you think I’m gonna let you?  HA!!”  And with that she put her left hand behind her and slowly drew it back out, index finger out and thumb up, with the rest of her fingers tucked in.  “POW, estupido!  I shoot you and your dumb ‘too-che’.”

With a withering look from my dad that said, ‘what the hell am I going to do with her?’ he mumbled, “Vieja loca,” and shaking his head walked back into the main room to do some leather belt trimming.

Seeing his retreat my mom uncocked her “gun” and transformed it into a pointer.  Motioning towards the table she said, “Sit down Pancho and eat your cereal.  You have to leave soon.”

***

This recollection of my parents actually having some fun with each other is probably my most vivid memory of all, mainly because of its extreme rarity.  Although they both had a keen sense of humor, it seemed that they very seldom used it with one another around the house.  Whenever they were apart from each other and in the company of others—my mother, usually with her sisters, and my dad always with his friends—they exhibited a completely different personality than what they did when with each other.  For example, many times I can recall my mother and my Aunt Janie joking and eventually driving each other into a crazy laughing frenzy.  Hugging, trying to hold each other up with tears rolling out of their eyes, they would laugh until they could hardly breathe.  Finally drained of all strength they would collapse to the floor, trying to compose themselves back to a general state of seriousness.

My dad, on the other hand would very rarely joke around when I, or my mother, was present.  Apparently he saved the comedy routines for those times when he was with friends and far away from us.  I knew this because many times church people particularly would comment on how funny “Mr. Bob” (later it would be Reverend Bob) was.  After many church services, as I would be putting my guitar back into its case, brothers and sisters of the church would tell me how lucky I was to have such a funny and clever father.  All I could do was smile and agree quietly.

More often than not, in the car on the way home from church services I would sit silently in the back seat while my mother and father argued and insulted each other in the front seat.  By the time the car was pulling into the driveway their disagreement over whatever would have escalated into full-fledged verbal warfare; usually dealing with money.

So, the lighthearted episode that occurred between my mother and my father on the morning before I left to go the Pentecostal Church for the first time was one that will forever remain forged in my memory.

The Water’s Fine, Just Ignore The Sharks

It was small and somewhat shabby. Peeling, a yellowing white ashy paint covered the exterior of the wooden building, while the lot it was sitting on was barren; rocky and dusty with scattered patches of grass resembling unruly cowlicks on a  freckled farm boy’s face.  A sign, hand painted in childlike letters—upper and lower case mixed—said simply, “Jerusalén, Iglesia Pentecostal”, (Jerusalem, Pentecostal Church).

Tinny sounds, barely recognizable as music, painfully clanged out from a slightly out of tune brown upright piano and spilled out through the church’s open wooden doors.  It was around nine in the morning but already the steamy Texas dampness was causing the collar on my slightly over-sized shirt to chafe my neck.  After parking the little Ford coupe next to a beat up Chevy pickup missing a rear bumper, we walked to the front of the church and climbed the knotty and slightly bowed wooden steps.

My first sensation as I entered the old church was that of smell. It was a dead and dusty atmosphere in there, air hanging shroud-like, and still.  Millions of tiny specks of dust were slowly dancing, illuminated by the scattered rays of dim sunlight flowing through the rectangular glass windows.  The ancient wooden floor, covered by an almost threadbare red carpet, adorned in an ornate gold weave Persian-like design, creaked painfully as I walked slowly down the center aisle following Robert and his grandparents. The dull aroma of old paper and cardboard, yellowed and brittle, was in hard competition with the musty odors of varnish—long dried out.

Picking out a pew on the right side of the church, our little group filed in and sat down. Robert’s grandparents sat nearest the aisle followed by Robert’s sister, Robert and then me. Glancing around I noticed that there were no statues. Instead, banners in once rich but now faded colors adorned sections of the walls between the tall rectangular windows.  Gold and silver fringes bordered the sides and bottoms of the banners, and words spelled out by letters that were oddly misshapen, as if cut out by a class of third graders using round nosed stubby scissors and stiff poster paper, were displayed on each.

Everything was in Spanish, and even though I spoke the language I could barely read and was completely unable to write it.  “Soldados De Jesucristo”, “Goza En Tu Salvación”, “El Hijo De Dios”, were just some of the phrases that adorned those banners.

At the front of the small church there was a stage with a pulpit in the center, covered in a tapestry that resembled a heavy white sheet with green embroidered edging—a caricature of Christ wearing a thorny crown, blood dripping down his forehead, embellished on the front facing the congregation.

Eight tall backed dark wooden chairs were arranged, four on each side and slightly behind the pulpit.  Directly behind, and almost against the back wall was a large box-like structure covered by a heavy deep red velvet throw.  I would later find out that the structure was a large tub, about three feet deep, where water baptisms were performed.

On the left side of the stage was the tortured brown upright piano, presently being played by a young girl—probably no more than twelve or thirteen years old.  Sitting on a small bench, head cocked one way then another; she was viciously working the yellowed keys with a fevered intensity.  By the look on her face, and certainly from the tortured sounds escaping the exhausted instrument, she hadn’t studied her music homework very well.

Afraid to look behind me I remained stock still, staring straight ahead straining my lateral eye muscles pulling my vision from far left to far right. Finally Robert asked me if there was something wrong with my neck.  I knowingly, but quietly, advised him that any slight glance backward would surely elicit disapproving comments from the old folks sitting behind us. I whispered that in Catholic Church I’d learned that one had to sit quietly and stare straight ahead. He smiled, and told me not to worry. “Look all you want,” he explained.  These people are cool.”  Cool?

The people—well if I hadn’t known better I would’ve believed that it was the same audience mysteriously transplanted from that little Catholic Church that I had previously attended with my mom.  Again, with grand similarity to the Catholics, most of these folks seemed to me to be moderately to desperately poor; and compared to what most of them were wearing I was dressed like a king.  There were a few more young to middle-aged couples, most with with kids, than had been in attendance at Our Lady of Sorrows, but that really wasn’t what I felt set this group apart.  It was their general demeanor.

While most sat silently, toes tapping to the piano’s ragged rhythm; a few of them even nodding their heads to the beat, they all seemed to have a perpetual smile on their face.  That was the difference!  These people seemed genuinely happy to be where they were.  Not a sad or serious look anywhere.  Weird.

The women all wore dresses, modest in their length, but most had probably never seen the inside of a department store for quite a while.  Mixed in with the older ones, the groups of younger families almost seemed out of place; youthful, fair complexions, fairly good quality clothing and shoes, and an almost aloof demeanor.  Our little group fit right about in the middle.

At last the piano mercifully stopped playing and the girl got up, head bowed, and walked off the stage, taking her place with a group of homely teen and pre-teen girls in the first pew.  From a door located to the left back of the stage several men emerged, all wearing white shirts topped off with red bolo ties and dark slacks.  They filed out and climbed the two or three steps up to the stage.  The first two were carrying trumpets, one gold and the other silver; the other two men empty handed.  The trumpeters took their positions sitting on chairs located near the wall at the back and left of the stage, all the while fingering the valves on their shiny instruments.  One of the other two men stopped, bent over and picked up a guitar that had been leaning on a small amplifier, and sat heavily down.  The last man noisily pulled up a metal stool and dragged it behind a lumpy sheet on the stage.  Once situated, he reached out and removed the sheet exposing a large set of drums.  For a few seconds all four men just sat there looking listlessly out onto the nearly full church.

A door on the right side of the stage opened slowly and from it walked a beautiful tall ivory skinned red haired girl, dressed in a fabulous blazingly white high collared dress.  Her pale freckled face framed an almost Mona Lisa-like smile on her lips as she walked, (no, floated) up the stairs to the stage and glided across and behind the pulpit towards the now empty piano.  Gracefully pulling the bench out with her left hand she carefully wiped the seat with a small white cloth she’d been carrying in her other hand.  Flexing her fingers she sat down on the bench as daintily as I had ever seen anyone do in my entire life.  I stole a quick look at Robert as he turned his head towards me.  Grinning broadly he sent me a, ‘I told you so’, wink before his grandmother tapped his arm and whispered something in his ear.

After staring straight ahead for a few seconds, the piano girl began to stretch, then arched her back so severely that I thought she might actually tumble backwards.  Regaining her balance she turned her head to the right and quietly addressed the four other musicians.  Her left hand left her lap and glided up to the keyboard deftly striking a key.  Whereas before, the tones belching out from that very same piano had sounded harsh and tinny, now that one key, softly caressed by that pale and delicate hand, rang sweetly—the sound wafting melodiously through the church’s dead air.

In unison the trumpet boys raised their instruments and strained to match the piano’s long note in long slow draws; the guitarist crossed his legs, lowered his head close to his Spanish guitar and strummed—first one string, then all, in a full chord—in the same key.  The drummer did a couple of light drum rolls and thudded his bass drum.  Apparently satisfied, he twirled the sticks, laid them on his lap and smiled at the guitarist.  Then quiet.

The red headed beauty folded her hands on her lap, the trumpeters blew spit out of their horns and the guitarist sat back gently stroking his instrument’s long neck.  The drummer yawned.

Not a sound came from the congregation save for the rustle of folded paper fans, bearing that same suffering Jesus face, exciting the still air and bringing temporary relief to their hot sweaty faces.

Bending her head slightly toward the keyboard the piano girl brought both hands up to the keys and with a hard nod all the musicians began to play.

The music, led by the pianist, was tantalizingly familiar, yet new to my ears.  After a few bars I realized that the hymn they were playing had been sort of musically reconstructed to sound like a northern Mexico polka (norteñas).  It was catchy, had a hell of a rhythm, and made you want to tap your toes, and more.  The red head began singing to the accompaniment in a sweet yet husky voice, and the drummer along with the guitarist provided background vocal harmony.  The trumpets were literally blazing away.  The congregation, although not singing, one by one began to stand up; and like a wave—the younger ones first followed by the slower and creakier elders—rose and began clapping their hands in time with the infectious rhythm; suddenly and joltingly joined by dozens of tambourines that had appeared out of nowhere and began driving the beat.

The sound was deafening yet pleasing to the ear.  The red haired pianist’s honeyed alto voice rose above the din and carried the hymn’s melody and cadence up and over the rattling cacophony created by clapping hands and slapping tambourines.  It was riveting, and before I knew it I found myself swaying, and like everyone else, clapping enthusiastically to the driving beat.

As the hymn drew to an end the church was flooded with the sounds of “amen” and “hallelujah”.  The pianist, having terminated with a Liberace-like flourish, brought her hands back down to her lap and folded them primly, one over the other.  Her back still painfully arched and her head held high with ankles crossed and tucked under the bench she resumed her statue-like pose, staring straight ahead.  The people, still voicing heavenly praises, all slowly began to sit back down and for a few moments, save for the resumption of the waving paper fans, nothing happened.

Then, as if on cue, the two doors either side of the stage opened slowly and four dark skinned men, of varying height, filed out of each door.  All dressed in dark suits and ties, they climbed the steps of the stage and took their positions standing quietly in front of the chairs.  Each one carried a bible, and once situated in front of his respective chair clasped the book tightly,  both hands crossed demurely in front of his body.  Staring somberly, each man focused on the two still open large front doors of the church.

A deep loud and booming baritone voice echoed from behind and to my left, startling me and forcing me to turn my head.

“¡Que Dios los bendiga!”  Boomed the voice.  (May God bless you!)  And the piano sounded an introductory chord.  Everyone stood and every head  rotated towards the doors.  Just then the piano playing began a solemn set of minor chords and the red haired girl’s head turned left.  The chords flowed together and began to form a song whose composition was grounded in mostly bass keys.  The  music rose in volume and as the pianist focused her view on the entrance doors.  I turned and looked towards the door.

Standing grandly just inside the vestibule was the man I would come to know as El Reverendo Tomás Villa, resident pastor of the church.  He was magnificent!

A large man, well over six feet tall with wavy black hair cut just right and shining radiantly in the sun, he stood there sucking up every bit of the adoring congregation’s love and admiration.   Dressed in a flawlessly tailored dark blue pin striped double-breasted suit, radiant white shirt and a flashy gold tie, his attire was perfect—right down to the gleaming pair of highly polished black leather shoes.

“¡Y a usted también, hermano Villa!”  The congregation answered back in perfect unison.

After a quick glance to the right, then to the left, he fixed his gaze on the pulpit and with a large smile that underscored his well-trimmed jet black moustache, and began a slow deliberate stroll up the center aisle in perfect cadence with the music’s beat.

In his right hand he carried a large white leather bound bible embossed with a golden cross, and to his left for the first time I noticed a woman; her right hand perched on his left forearm she was walking solemnly alongside.  She was wearing a beautiful black dress, and although at that young age I had yet to develop an eye for any type of sartorial fashion, I just knew it had to be expensive.

She was beautiful, in a mature but not matronly way.  She was about my mother’s age but her jet-black hair, glistening with a few fine threads of silver was pulled back and tightly rolled into a perfect bun.  A very stylish black hat decorated with a short veil was just barely resting on her forehead.  Passing by our pew they both shot a brief glance in our direction.  A hint of a smile from both as they passed, then onward towards the pulpit.

As they cleared the front two pews they turned to face the congregation.   Smiling broadly they enthusiastically waved at the younger kids sitting in the front while waiting for the hymn to end.

As the song drew to a close Reverend Villa looked to the heavens and in that deep hypnotic voice said, “Hermanos queridos, vamos a orar.”  (Brothers, let us pray).

As one, the entire congregation bowed their heads.  Reverend Villa raised both his arms, lifted his head heavenward and closed his eyes.  In that commanding voice he began to pray—and I was instantly mesmerized.

His prayer was in Spanish, of course, but never in my life had I heard the language spoken so beautifully.  Every syllable perfectly formed and intoned.  When the “R’s” needed to be trilled he did so in such a manner that they rolled off his tongue in chilling vocal rapidity.  He used words I had never heard before but the context was so beautifully framed I had no doubt as to their meaning.  He was masterful.

Almost everyone in the congregation was also praying loudly, imploring the Lord to show them the path, to heal the sick, to please save their souls.  But even through that loud wall of vocal clamor his was the dominant voice.  If God was listening, He would certainly be listening to him.

“En Tu Nombre santificado te pido todo Señor, amen y amen.”  (In Your Holy Name I ask this Lord, amen and amen).   He ended his prayer with those words after slowly bowing his head.  He then fished out a silky white handkerchief from one of his inside pockets and wiped his eyes.

Everyone else put their closing remarks on their prayers and the church began to quiet down.  Here and there was a cough, a blowing nose, and finally a soft shuffling of feet as everyone sat back down.

During the prayer I had been busy looking around at the people—trying to see what they were doing.  Some had their arms raised, others only one, and still others just holding on to the pew in front of them.  But they all had their eyes closed—some dream-like, others squeezed tight—all imploring the Lord to listen to their plight.

Robert had his eyes glued to the red head.  After having finished playing the hymn she had bowed her head and had remained that way until the end of the prayer.  Even after sitting down Robert pinned her with his gaze.  She, of course, never noticed.

Turning my attention back to the front of the church I saw that the reverend had climbed onto the stage and was now sitting on a large chair directly behind the pulpit and in front of the baptismal tub.  Legs crossed, his white bible in his lap he gazed almost disinterestedly at the congregation.  His wife had taken a seat on the first pew to the left of the aisle.  Only later would I notice the small paper sign taped to that spot: “Reservado”.  (Reserved).

One of the men that had been sitting on the stage in one of the eight chairs was now standing behind the pulpit.  Leafing through what looked like notes he cleared his throat and addressed the congregation.

“Gracias a Dios por la vida, y bienvenidos todos a nuestra iglesia.”  (Thanks to God for our life and a welcome to all to our church).

His greeting was met with a disjointed chorus of “amen”, “gracias a Dios”, and a bevy of “hallelujahs”.

For the next ten or fifteen minutes he went on to make general announcements concerning the church’s upcoming activities for the week and to direct where and with who the segregated groups would attend this morning’s Sunday School classes: adult men in this room with brother so and so, adult women in that room with sister so and so, teen boys…teen girls…etc.

Referring to his notes for the last time he cleared his throat again and introduced the next speaker.  Another one of the men got up and took the pulpit.  He proceeded to open the green covered ledger he carried and read attendance totals for last week’s Sunday school service.  Boring stuff.  I glanced at Robert again while stifling a yawn and was amused to see that his eyes were still boring holes in “Red’s” back.  She, on the other hand, had crossed her legs casually and her arms, now resting on the two back corners of the bench, were supporting her as she leaned slightly back.  I couldn’t see her face but I assumed she was bored too.

Soon we had filed into our respective classrooms to receive the bible lesson given that Sunday.  Not being too impressed with the teacher, a twenty-something gawky looking man wearing thick glasses and sweating profusely, I let my mind drift and wondered where the beautiful pianist was now.

An hour later, and after having endured the driest and most mind-numbing bible lesson ever presented to any living human being, we filed out of the little classroom at the back of the church and back to our pews.  Robert resumed his watch on the red haired pianist, who was now back at her piano, and I sank down on the hard pew.

I begun to drift a bit but was abruptly brought back by the sound of the band firing up again.  Everyone stood up and began to sing.  Well, maybe sing is too fine a word.

No one in the congregation seemed to be in tune and no one seemed to care. The people bellowed out variations of what they thought the melody might be, clapping their hands and stomping their feet. They looked up toward the ceiling and smiled…looked at each other and smiled…looked at me and smiled. I smiled back. Spooky.

No one seemed to care about the words too much either, so I joined in and started making music-like sounds. The beat was furious and addictive. The volume was deafening.  Happy! Happy! Happy! Sing! Sing! Sing! Clap! Clap! Clap! The group of men on the pulpit was now leading the congregation in song.  Waving their arms and mouthing the words as they merrily carried on.  Gradually one of the men in the group stepped up to the pulpit to take the lead.

Dressed in a loosely fitting, slightly shiny, blue suit, he began exhorting the crowd with his waving arms and wildly bulging eyes.  He had a large fine looking black moustache that seemed to bounce in rhythm with the pounding Latin beat, but through it all his wavy glossed black hair remained static—except for one lock that clung to his left eyebrow.

Just when you thought the hymn was going to be over the big guy would energetically launch, slightly off-key but with mucho gusto, into another refrain…his voice booming over the crowd and bouncing off the plainly painted wooden walls.  The band, and the gorgeous piano girl, would pick up the beat and courageously carry on one more time.

The congregation, as one swirling flowing mass would pick up the cue and launch forcefully into the suggested verse. The band would hurriedly slam picks into strings, blow hot humid air into shiny brass and bang finely manicured fingers into ivory to catch up with the frenzied worshippers.  Somewhere directly behind me a tambourine was slapping its hollow jingling beat into my soul, and boy did that make me want to dance!

Finally, after seemingly endless repetitions the hymn mercifully came to its frenzied end. The final boom of the bass drum and the trilling of the tambourine behind me signaled to the mass that there would be no more refrains. Instead of being disappointed they erupted in yet another thunderous wave of hallelujah, amen, praise God…and a couple of assorted words in a language I had never heard before. No one sat down.

Again the army of little paper Jesus hand fans stapled to flat sticks, began to rapidly flutter everywhere like a wave of dying albino moths.  I was hot and sweaty and the breeze generated by the fanning women felt deliciously refreshing. The amen and praising of God name continued here and there until finally Brother Villa, who’d been standing hands on waist lovingly admiring the crowd, let loose with a deeply baritone, “Thank you Lord”!  This got another wave of holy praise going around the church, the chorus of voices rising up trying to reach the very heavens and then slowly finally fading out.

One by one finally everyone sat down. I could feel the sweat rolling down my back and soaking into the elastic band of my boxers…vaguely tickling. The atmosphere in the church was well past hot and humid, and the air sank heavily onto my head. Reverend Villa began to speak softly and I found myself  leaning forward, afraid to miss anything he said. He spoke words of salvation, of pain and suffering and of generosity. His deeply rich melodic tone was sing-song, now soft and serious, then sharp and staccato, finally pleadingly and painfully hoarse. With his words floating over the congregation in that stagnant air I pictured the Christ hanging, bleeding, dying, forgiving.  The message was mesmerizing and magical.

The corners of my eyes began to sting sharply from the sweat slowly trickling down my forehead, and I reached for the handkerchief that my mother had thoughtfully jammed into my back pocket when I left home that morning. As I averted my attention from the preacher I felt, rather than saw, someone looking in my direction. On the pew ahead of me, and a little to the right, I saw a large round-faced woman staring intently–at me.  She smiled and I cringed slightly.  She winked and pointed a pudgy finger directly at my nose.

To my left Robert nudged me and whispered, “I like mine better.”

To be continued……

From Donuts To Death

From Donuts to Death

Only The Lonely…

Where most people can claim to having had many friends in their lifetime I can claim to have had only three; and one of those existed only in my imagination.  It’s not that I deliberately set out to avoid as many friendships as possible, it was just the way I was raised—and I don’t necessarily consider that a bad thing.  It was what it was, and I have learned to accept that part of my life.

Because I’ve always been blessed with a good memory I have been fortunate enough to be able to recall certain episodes of my early life that should’ve faded long before I was even out of diapers.  As I’ve mentioned several times before, as a child I was small, weak, and sickly, and my mother thinking I was living on death’s door constantly hovered over me never letting me out of her sight.  Consequently, never letting me out of her sight meant that when I played, she was watching me; when I slept, I was within an arm’s length of her grasp; and when I went to the bathroom, she was waiting outside the door for me to finish.

I was rarely permitted to go outside at all, and whenever I did she made sure that I was never out of her sight.  The few times I was allowed to mingle with other neighborhood kids she would insist on monitoring our activities from her vantage point not more than ten feet away, yelling her disapproval when someone even looked like he was going to touch me.  That type of overbearing parental surveillance usually put a quick damper on any games we may have decided to play together, and sooner rather than later I would find that everyone had eventually drifted off leaving me by myself.  By the time I was old enough to be enrolled in kindergarten I was pretty much hardwired to be a loner.

I still remember her horror the day that I had to go off to kindergarten with the rest of the barrio brats and spend half a day out of her sight.  We walked the five blocks to Sherman Elementary School that morning, and every step of the way she held my hand so tightly that I all but lost feeling in every finger of my right hand.  About a block from the school she pulled me into a pastry shop and bought me a huge raspberry-jelly filled donut and a small bottle of milk.

“¡Mira!” she said, frowning as we sat at a small table.  “No se if they’re gonna feed you or not before you come home, so eat it all.”

“Mamá, it’s too big.”  I whined.

“Mira hijito, eat as much as you can and I’ll save the rest so you can eat it when you finish with school.”  She said simply.

I stuffed about half of that gigantic jelly donut into my little belly before she yanked me off the chair to resume our Sherman Elementary death march.

As we entered the schoolyard through a large chain link gate I remember seeing a large brick building with several tables set up in front of the doors; lines of moms and kids were standing in front of each one.  After studying the signs attached to each table my mother guided me up to one on our left and we took our place behind another mother holding a blond girl in a light blue dress with matching socks and white sandals.  She turned to look at me and smiled.  Not knowing what to do or say I looked down at my shoes, tugged at my suspenders and concentrated on not going wee-wee in my new short pants.  As if on cue my stomach gurgled and I stifled a burp.

Soon after my mother had filled out a few forms and was given a stack of papers to take home, a tall dark-haired woman wearing glasses took me by my other hand and began leading me towards the building.  As she started walking me in the direction of one of the large doors I looked back to see where my mother had gone.  She was still standing there, near the table, and she was crying like a baby, holding a dainty white handkerchief over her mouth with one hand while tightly clutching the white bag with the rest of my jelly donut in the other.  Suddenly realizing that I was probably being led away to some great and scary unknown I stiffened up and  let out a guttural scream.  Turning in the direction of my mother I twisted and pulled and tried to lunge away from my captor.

Apparently anticipating my reaction the woman quickly countered my move, scooped me up and into her arms, and tightly cradled me across her bosom.  Wildly kicking my feet and twisting my head under her arm I tightened all the muscles in  my body and tried to reach out for my mother while screaming as loud as my asthmatic lungs would allow.

Too late!  Before I knew it I had been carried into the dark building and into a room filled full of very small tables and chairs—and about a dozen wide-eyed kids.  They all seemed to be frozen in various poses, and they were all staring at me.  As she bent over and put me down on my feet I tried to make a quick escape through the now closed and locked door.  Quicker on her feet than I thought she’d be, she quickly side-stepped and blocked my escape.  Realizing that I had been outmaneuvered by the crafty ninja woman I pulled my last trick: I fell to the floor, closed my eyes and played dead.  When worked on my mother this tactic would usually stop all her efforts to make me do whatever it was she’d wanted me to do.  After a while of lying there motionless she would quietly  whisper in my ear telling me how silly I looked as a dead kid.  That would get me to giggling at first, then laughing full force.  Getting up from my death pose she’d hug me and  let me do, or have, whatever I’d played dead for.

That tried and true tactic didn’t work at all for me that morning (or ever again).  After playing dead for what seemed hours I eventually lost track of what the rest of the kids were doing.  Occasionally, and seemingly from far away, I would hear someone ask, “is he going to be OK?”, quickly followed by an adult type “shush”.  Finally, I squinted one eye open and the room’s ceiling came into view.  Hanging from it I saw cardboard numbers in various colors and sizes, all twirling around in the breeze created by a large metal fan positioned in a corner.  Getting up on one elbow I saw that everyone was now on the other side of the room sitting in a circle on the floor with their hands raised, some yelling out the names of the large letters that the teacher was raising above her head.

I felt tired and a little dizzy, the back of my head hurting from the hardwood floor, and I needed to go wee-wee.  Worse, my stomach was really gurgling now.  I slowly and quietly got up.  My knees felt a little shaky, and as I took a step I grabbed the edge of a table for balance.

“Frankie D ?”  I looked up to see that the teacher, still holding a red “R” in her hand, was now looking at me and smiling.  “You want to join us?”

“No, I have to go wee-wee.”  That sent the entire class into a hysterical laughing fit and caused the teacher to quickly stand and shush them quiet again.

“You mean you need to do number one, right?”  She sweetly inquired, walking slowly towards me.

“No, I have to wee-wee.”  More giggling and a couple of girls turned a bit red in the face.

“Well, Frankie D, when we have to go to the bathroom we either say we have to do number one or number two.”  She instructed.  “I think you were sleeping a little when we talked about that a little while ago.  So, number one is what you need to do, right?”

By now I was sure that whatever number was assigned to it, it was coming out sooner than later.  Besides, “wee-wee” was what my mother had always told me to say.  Unless, of course, it was “ca-ca”.

“I think so.” I answered, and suddenly I didn’t feel so good.  My stomach, which had just been gurgling until now, seemed to be doing somersaults.

“Come with me, Frankie D, I’ll show you where you have to go.”

Taking a step towards the teacher my head swooned and my legs felt like rubber.  As I started to bend forward she caught me under my arms, just in time for a giant burp to loudly escape my throat–followed closely by a load of semi-digested jelly donut and milk projectile vomited right onto the teacher’s midsection.

“CHRIST ALMIGHTY!”  Was what I remember her yelling as I went down to my knees.

“Guww…” was all I could manage for a response.   One more giant abdominal contraction that brought up a bitter stream of bile and drove me to the floor, and I was done.

Lots of yelling, the grating sound of tables and chairs being shoved around the floor, and little feet scurrying around is all I can recall hearing as I lay with my knees up to my chin.  I felt cold but strangely warm and moist in my mid-section.  Big hands wrapped themselves around my hips and I felt myself being pulled up.

“Careful, he’s pissed himself too.”  Some man was saying, and I wondered what that meant.

I must’ve passed out, or my mind has mercifully erased the memories of the next few hours, but some time later I found myself on a bed, of sorts—wrapped in a blanket.  The room was white and smelled a lot like when my mother swabbed my forehead with alcohol.  An older woman dressed in a white dress, with what I would learn later in life was a stethoscope dangling from her neck, entered my field of vision and asked me if I hurt anywhere.  I told her I didn’t hurt anywhere but wondered where my pants had gone.

“Oh, we washed them out along with your underpants, and they’re hung up drying now.  Would you like some water?”

“No,” I said, “but can I go home?

“Well honey, we’ll have to wait until your mother comes to pick you up.  We’ve sent someone from the school to notify her that you got a little sick.  So she should be here to take you home pretty soon.  But until then you can just rest there.”

I must’ve napped out again because the next thing I remember is my mother holding me tight against her shoulder and trying to get my slightly damp underpants on.

Thus went my very first day in school.  Not a banner day.

The memory of my subsequent kindergarten days at Sherman Elementary is spotty but I do remember not caring to participate in activities with the other kids.  I was happy to be left alone drawing or practicing writing in the classroom while the rest of the class was sent out to play during recess.  When I was forced to join the class outside my time would be spent isolated in a corner of the large playground searching for cloverleaves in the grass or collecting little smooth round stones.  I just didn’t care to be around anyone.  I enjoyed being alone.

The teacher, a real trooper, continued to try to convince me to join the group activities—and when I would acquiesce, I would usually start out OK but more often than not would soon find myself drifting away into my own world.  It was about then that I started talking to Jerry.

Pleased To Meet You…Won’t You Change Your Name?

l recall the very day, and almost the very moment, when my best friend Robert and I forever parted ways.  Because of one question, and one very succinct answer, his life and mine split and we each began to travel a path completely opposite from the other.  Picture a big “Y”…he went left and I went right.  Neither of us realized that it would happen then, nor did we understand that at that moment our lives would turn away from each other and would never ever cross again.  Prior to that particular moment our lives had been closely intertwined and we had shared a lot of good times.  I was fifteen and he was sixteen.

As I’ve alluded to in the previous paragraph, the beginning of the end of our friendship began with a simple question, and the event was permanently forged a few seconds later with an even simpler answer.  Had the answer to that question been any different, my life would have taken a very different path, and probably would have ended as tragically for me as it did for him.

But first, the beginning…

I guess it was one day after school, during my first semester in the seventh grade at John Marshall Junior High School that I first noticed him riding with the rest of us on our school bus home.  He was actually hard to miss, standing a head taller than the rest of us, and ruggedly handsome—causing the girls on the bus to whisper to each other and stifle silly giggles after shooting stealthy glances his way.  Ignoring everyone completely, and oblivious to the attention he was attracting, he stood staring blankly ahead rhythmically rocking from side to side with the rest of us as the ancient diesel bus lumbered noisily along Liberty Road.

As the bus screeched to a stop in front of King’s Market I quickly exited out the back doors and into the hot and humid afternoon sun.  Waiting for the bus to rumble off I held my breath until the black diesel exhaust cloud thinned out enough for me to check traffic and quickly walk across Liberty Road, already starting to buzz with the early afternoon traffic.  Glancing casually over my shoulder I noticed him walking a few yards behind me.  I quickly turned my attention back to where I was going, but not after having taken note of his neatly pleated khaki pants, intentionally long in the inseam to allow the cuffs to be folded up once over his tan spit-shined Florsheim capped toe dress shoes, and an untucked plaid cotton sport shirt worn over a white T-shirt and buttoned only at the collar.  Official pachuco uniform.  I immediately decided that this guy was a bad ass, and a big one at that.

Picking up my tempo I strained to listen for the clip-clop of his steel tapped heels, hoping they weren’t getting any louder, thus closer.  Keeping my head down and my ears open I was relieved when the sound of his steps on the cracked sidewalk began to fade slightly then disappear altogether.  I chanced a quick look over my right shoulder and saw that he’d turned off onto the street before mine.  Relieved, I took a quick breath and continued walking the remaining half block to my house at a much more relaxed pace.  Turning right onto my street I headed to our most recent rental.  A tiny house, even smaller than the one we’d lived in on House Street.

Our move had been prompted by a disagreement with the old landlord regarding the condition of our front yard and our inability to afford the rent because of the expense resulting from my mother’s sudden medical problems.  Caught in an ever-tightening financial noose my dad’s drinking increased and my mother swallowed her pride reaching out to my Tía Juanita for help.

Having lost her first husband to illness a few years back my aunt still lived in their old home on Jewell Street with her second husband.  Some time back she’d decided to purchase the two little houses on either side of her property with the intention of demolishing them and using the land for expansion and some landscaping. But before she had a chance to pick up a sledgehammer my mother begged her to let us move into one of them—rent free and temporarily—at least until we got back on our feet.  Taking pity on her little sister she decided to delay her original plans and agreed to let us move in.

And so it was that one hot and sticky evening my father, having borrowed a pickup from his job at Younger Brothers Trucking, piled our meager belongings into the bed of the truck and made the move from the house on House Street to the little hovel on Jewell Street.  At the time I didn’t know that Robert’s grandparents were living directly across the street of our rental, in a neat white frame home with cheery yellow shutters.

A few days later at school, and while going from one class to another, I spotted Robert (at the time I didn’t know his name) strolling down the hall with a group of local pachucos from the neighborhood.  Although I was familiar with most of the guys in the group, having gone through about six years of school with them, I made it my business to never have anything to do with them at any time.  They smoked, I didn’t; they regularly skipped school, I didn’t do that either; and they all carried finely sharpened switchblade knives in their socks.  I sure as hell didn’t.

They wore the Chicano Home Boys uniform of the day, looking all bad and cool, with their tan or black spit-shined Stacy-Adams dress shoes, and walking together with a little hitch to each step while casting menacing looks to all those who dared meet their half-lidded piercing gaze.  When not in school they entertained themselves, and earned a little money, by committing petty crimes such as, B & E, auto theft, burglary and shoplifting.  I, on the other hand not to be outdone, once brazenly snuck into a movie theater through the back door.  Sitting in the dark, and not even bothering to watch the movie, I was so frightened that I’d be caught that I had to run to the bathroom to throw up and pee—at the same time.  Yeah, I know—but I haven’t done those things in quite a while now.

Watching the cocky group stroll down the hallway parting the flood of oncoming students with just their steely stares, I wondered where this new guy had come from and, more importantly, exactly where he lived.  I knew where all the other pachucos lived and made sure I was never within a block of their houses when the sun went down, so I wanted to make damn sure I knew where this new threat made his bed.  I was soon to find out—and it was awfully close.

For the remainder of the semester I managed to avoid Robert the same way I avoided the other thugs.  I made sure not to be where they usually were, and in school I took classes that I knew they would avoid.  Everything worked out for me until school let out for the summer.

Early one Monday morning, on a typically hot and muggy June day, I was helping my mother do the weekly clothes washing.  She had recently acquired a used GE agitator washing machine complete with rubber rollers to squeeze-dry the wash once it had gone through the rinse cycle.  After she put the damp clothes into a straw basket it was my job to haul the basket out to the back yard and hang the laundry on the wire clotheslines she had strung between a couple of trees.

After hanging out the last load that morning I decided to walk around our house and into the front yard where a few trees provided some welcome shade from the hot morning sun.  Stretching out on the cool grass I was busy finding faces in the puffy white clouds when I heard someone whistle.  Startled, I sat up looking to find whoever it was that had whistled.  Again—but this time I localized it as coming from across the street.

Robert was standing inside the chain link fence surrounding the yellow shuttered white house across from ours.  He was leaning on the gate, one hand to his mouth forming the shrill whistle I’d heard, and the other hand lazily waving at me.

Standing up I stupidly pointed to myself while at the same time looking over both shoulders to see if someone had snuck up behind me.  No, no one there.

“¡Órale, ese!” (What’s up, Homey?) He said in a low strong voice.

“Me?”  I asked in a phlegmy whine.

“Yeah man, tú.”

“Oh, OK.  What?”

“Ven para acá.”  (Come here).

“Me?  Uh…I mean OK…..ese.”

Barefoot, and wearing only an old pair of ripped jeans and no shirt, I puffed my chest up, which caused my ribs to stick out even more than when I slouched, and started across the street.  That, in itself, was an act of absolute heroism for me since the street had recently been given a fresh layering of black tar, then coated with white shell, and walking barefoot across it was sheer torment.  Trying to look all manly, and swelled up to my full one hundred and five pounds, I swaggered painfully across the punishing shell road and was finally gratefully relieved when I reached the less agonizing baked mud ditch on the other side.

Opening the gate to the chain link fence he motioned me up the stairs to the small concrete porch and sat heavily down on a weathered wooden chair.  Yes, this was the same guy that I’d seen on the bus, but there was something different about him now.  About four inches taller than me and a good thirty pounds heavier, he somehow seemed less aloof than before.  Instead of the khaki pants and sport shirt buttoned at the collar, he was dressed in a white Tshirt, newish looking blue jeans folded up at the cuffs exposing a fairly new pair of black Chuck Taylor Converse All Stars.  Hardly hoodlum attire; at least for our neighborhood.

Pointing to a matching chair on the other side of the porch he said, “I saw you in school and on the bus, ese.” He stated as I sat down.

“Yeah, that was me.”

“¿Como te llamas?”  (What’s your name?)

“Frankie…no, I mean Frank.  Sí, me llamo Frank.”

“Frankie, ¿qué? He asked quizzingly.

“DeLeón.”

“No, ese.  I mean your nickname.”  He was starting to look annoyed.

“No tengo un nickname.  Nomas Frank.”  (Just Frank).  I was starting to sweat a little, and I didn’t think it was because of the heat.

“¡Que relaje, ese!  (Well, that sucks homey). Everyone tiene un nickname.  It’s a must, ese!  How else are vatos going to know you?”  He was definitely annoyed.

“I don’t know.” I moaned.  “Everyone just calls me Frankie…I mean Frank.”

He looked a little disgusted but slid back on the flat wood chair stroking the dark beginnings of a moustache on his upper lip.

“How about you?” I asked.

“Me, what?”

“¿Como te llamas?

“Robert.”  He said plainly.

“What’s your nickname?”

“I don’t have one.”

“But, I thought you said that everyone had a nickname?”

“Sí, vato, they do.”

“So why don’t you have a nickname?”

“I don’t need one, ese.  Robert or Beto is enough.  Pero, you should have one.  As skinny as you are you need to have a good nickname.  That way people can get a good impression of you right away.”

Well, that kind of made sense.  But, I was thinking, what goes with Frank?

Still stroking his upper lip he turned to me and said,  “Aver, Frank no vale nada (ain’t worth nothing), pero, ‘Frankie’ sí.  Así es que tu nickname va a ser…um…‘Frankie the Bear.’”

“What?!” That was the only thing I could think of to say.  “Frankie the Bear?  I don’t look like a bear!  Bears are fat and hairy, and I’m skinny and…..you know…not much hair.”

“Simón, ese.”  (Right on homey).  See, you’re like so opposite a bear that you should have a nickname that makes people think of you as a bear.  And that way they’ll be a little scared of you.”

Now, even as young and naïve as I was during that time I still thought it was bullshit and kind of stupid.  But fearing for my well being I just sat there and smiled.  Further, I’d just met this guy less than five minutes ago and he already thought enough of me to have tagged me with a nickname (street name).  OK, a stupid one! But his rationalization that a good street name would earn me some street cred made a bit of sense.  But, still……”Frankie the Bear?”

“Well I don’t know about ‘Frankie the Bear’, ese,”  I explained.  “I don’t think my mom will like it.”

“Well, it’s not for your mother to know anyway, vato! What’s wrong with you?”

“You don’t know my mom.”

We talked for at least a couple of hours while sitting on those hard chairs in the shade of that cool concrete porch.  Having just met, I should have been shocked at the openness of his conversation and the ease with which he divulged personal facts of his life.  I guess you could say we just hit it off.  I had just made a friend.  My first.

He went on to tell me that a few months ago he had left Corpus Christi, Texas, where he, his mother and sister had lived for a few years.  His mom, he explained, was a hard-willed and drug-addicted woman who had either been married and divorced multiple times, or had just lived with a succession of Latin lovers and had never been married at all.  Robert wasn’t sure.  He did remember his father though, because of all the men his mother had entertained over the years he had been the one that always came back and stayed the longest.  But he too would eventually leave them and never return to the coastal city.

Mom had decided on Houston because his grandparents had lived there for many years.  She had left home at a very young age and had never returned.  Now, though, with two kids she decided that it was time for her to come home.  They rented a small house not too far from the Our Lady of Sorrows Catholic Church, and a few blocks from her parents.

He and his sister had enrolled in school:  John Marshall Junior High for him and Breckenridge Elementary for the sister.  A few weeks after moving in mom had brought home some stray guy, and he’d liked her enough to stay on for a while.

Robert did not like the guy and apparently the feeling was mutual.  Trouble started brewing quickly. One night a fairly violent argument between his mother and the live-in boyfriend ended when Robert took a beer bottle to the guy’s head.  To avoid further confrontations, and to try to keep this guy’s paycheck coming home, his mother asked Robert’s grandparents to take him in.  They had agreed on the condition that both Robert and his sister would come to live with them.  It was agreed, and a few weeks later they had moved in right across the street from us.

After a couple of hours of talking I heard my mother calling.  Apparently the next load of freshly washed and squeezed dried damp clothes had been sitting in a basket waiting to be hung out.

I got up from the chair, “Orale, ese, me tengo que ir. (I have to go).  Mí mama me está llamando.” (My mom is calling me).

“Bueno, allí nos vemos.” (I’ll be seeing you).  He said casually.  “Pero dile a tu mamá que ya no te llamas Pancho. (But, tell your mom that you’re no longer named Frankie).  Te llamas Frankie the Bear.”

Yeah, that’s going to work out really well for me.

Although I didn’t realize it then, I had just made my first real friend.  It was one of those things that just happened to me so quickly and so naturally that I didn’t even take notice.  Walking back across the street to my house I somehow felt that I had known Robert all my life.  He fit neatly into a space in my being that until now had been occupied by an imaginary creation.

Besides Robert, and a few acquaintances around school, no one ever knew that I had now been christened “Frankie the Bear.”  I sure as hell never told anyone.  Thankfully, I was still “Frank” to almost everyone I knew, and “Frankie” to my aunts and uncles.  To my mother I was “Frank, Frankie, Pancho, Panchito, Francisco, and flaco (skinny); depending on her mood at the time, and the nature of the occasion.  I usually ran and hid when I heard her call for “FRANCISCO!”

Soon, Jerry would be all but forgotten.

 A Deal Is Struck

Given my body (skinny), and my normal demeanor (skittish), as a teen I was not much for settling disagreements with my fists.  Anytime I sensed a confrontation I would either remove myself from the situation pronto, or blithely try to talk myself out of it.  One day Robert asked why I was never around when the honor of our neighborhood (El Crisol) was being defended from some verbal slight delivered by some other neighborhood—say, Magnolia Gardens. I told him that when the fists started flying I usually ran for the nearest hiding place. His eyes went real dark and squinty and he asked me point-blank if I even knew how to fight. In the most honest moment of my entire life I told him I did not. His glare went soft and he said, “Well, we need to fix that.”

In spite of all my physical shortcomings I was a pretty good student.  My report card usually displayed “A’s”, with an occasional sprinkling of “B’s”.  On the other hand, Robert was not the scholarly type, and given that his attendance was spotty at best, he’d be lucky to get passed on to the next grade at the end of the semester.

“OK,” he started.  “I can teach you how to fight if you help me do schoolwork.”

“I don’t want to learn how to fight.”  I countered.  “Besides, we don’t even have the same classes.”

“That’s what makes it perfect.”  He said.  “You’re smart, and the classes I take should be easy for you, so you do my homework and I teach you to fight.  And….since you’re pretty skinny and even if you did know how to fight you’d probably just get your ass kicked—so I can take care of you too.  Kinda protect you, ¿vez ese?” (You see, homey?)

“Well,” I said warily.  “I guess we could give it a try.  But, when would I have time to have you teach me to fight?”

“Do my homework when I need it done, and when you come over to give it back to me we can go into my grandfather’s garage and practice.  One homework, one fighting lesson.”

“Umm, I guess.”  I mumbled.

“Sure, ese,”  he said proudly, “if you don’t want to start fights at least I can show you how to defend yourself.”

Well, that didn’t sound so bad, so I agreed.

Over the next few months I would help Robert with assignments that he would be having trouble with, always being careful to have him copy them in his own hand before turning them in.  In return we would go into the little garage, and after moving his grandfather’s little Ford coupé out, engage in some physical self-defense exercises.

Mostly the lessons centered on how to fight dirty.  Kicks to the groin, fingers to the eyes, and if the opponent is on the ground knee drops to the neck and/or head.  Most importantly, even if the other guy quits you keep on hitting and kicking until he can’t get up.

I was not a good student, and soon Robert realized that despite his efforts I would never have the ability to successfully mount, or even defend, an attack.  After a few weeks he finally just said, “Look, if someone threatens you or asks to meet you after school to fight, just tell me.  I’ll take care of it for you.”  Perfect!

It must’ve not taken long for the word to spread that “Frankie (the Bear)” was Robert’s friend, and Robert’s blurring fists would answer any harm coming my way. And in case you’re wondering—no, we were painfully straight. None of us knew, or at least admitted we knew, that there were guys that liked guys…you know.

One Saturday evening, after receiving one of Robert’s lessons in dirty street fighting, he casually asked if I’d like to go to church. Thinking that perhaps Robert wanted to make sure I’d have somewhere to go after he’d groin-kicked me to death, I timidly responded, “…uh, I don’t know.” I quickly added that I’d been to the Catholic Church down the street with my mom once, but after deciding that we weren’t sure what was going on there we never went again.

“Yeah” he said, “I used to go too, but the ‘cura’ (priest) asked if I would like to be an altar boy, but I don’t do anything that allows me to be called boy. Instead, mis abuelos and I go to the Pentecostal church sometime—wanna go?”

Not wanting to put a dent into our now comfortable relationship I agreed to ask my mother if I could go. She curiously agreed with the admonition that I not embarrass our family by acting stupid. I agreed. This seemingly simple conversation and the subsequent Sunday visit would set in motion events that would profoundly affect and forever change my life, and that of my mother’s and father’s. These events would ultimately lead to my mother’s severe depression and loss of self-esteem, and the damnation of my father’s soul.

“Y”

“Hey, ozito,” (little bear) Robert asked.  “Do you want to do something with me tonight?”

“Don’t know, what?”  I questioned.

“Well, you know that laundromat on Quitman Street, the one with the big glass windows in front?”

“I think so.”

“So tonight, me and a couple of vatos are planning to break in through the back door to get some money.”

“Robert, it’s a laundromat not a bank!  There are washers in there.”  I quipped with some impatience.

“No, ese.  They also have some candy machines there, and they’re easy to break into.  We can get a lot of money out of them.”

Probably seeing the sudden fear flashing across my face, he added, “You don’t have to break in with us, all you have to do is wait out front and be a lookout.  Afterwards we split the money evenly.  What do you think, vato?”

“No, Robert.  I can’t do that.  Not only is it dangerous, but if I get caught I’ll be sent to Gatesville.” (The boys’ reform school in South Texas).  “No.”

“OK, vato.  I have to go now.  See you tomorrow.”  He walked off, shoulders squared.  As I watched him go I had no way of knowing that it would be the last time I would ever see him.

Robert and Frankie the Bear would be no more.

 **********

 It was a small entry on page five in the morning edition of the Houston Press:

“Local Businessman Shoots Three”

It went on to say that the owner of a local laundromat had caught three teens vandalizing his vending machines and had opened fire with his .22 carbine rifle.  One teen was dead at the scene and two others had been admitted to the Jeff Davis Emergency Room with serious injuries.  One teen had sustained six bullet wounds to the back and side, and the other had been shot through the right arm, with the bullet still lodged near his heart.  Both were expected to survive, and were to be arraigned in Juvenile Court as soon as they were able to be released from the hospital.

Robert was sentenced to nine months at the Gatesville Reform School for Boys, and after many operations to remove the bullet and fix nerve damage, he never regained the use of his right arm.

Fifty years later, while serving a fifty year term for manufacturing and dealing various drugs, he died in Huntsville State Prison in Huntsville, Texas, of a massive heart attack.

 

 

If You Try It–I’m Sure You’ll Like It

If You Try It—I’m Sure You’ll Like It!

1,2,3..then Me

In late August of 1942, while the United States and most of the male population of Houston, and every other city in the United States were locked in mortal combat with Germany, Japan and Italy, a scrawny 6-pound male child was born to Bob and Evelyn De Leon. It happened during the heat of the early afternoon in a small one room house in a pitifully poverty stricken neighborhood. After about six hours of agonizing maternal labor, an unlicensed Mexican mid-wife assisted the simple brown-skinned, twenty-four year old woman deliver her fourth child.

Evelyn’s first three attempts at motherhood had failed. The children, all boys, had not survived, each succumbing to death in different ways. The first, born almost exactly three years earlier, weighed in at a shocking thirteen pounds. The delivery and the preceding labor had been excruciating for both mother and child, and it had been nothing more than a miracle that Evelyn had survived the labor alone. Born at home and attended to by another even less qualified mid-wife, he lived less than a week. To my knowledge the cause of death was never really determined officially.  At least I’ve never seen any kind of documentation such as a death certificate or even a Certificate of Live Birth.  Worse, no records exist of his burial or final disposition.

“He was just too big to breathe”, was the general explanation offered by the mid-wife and my mother’s older sisters to those who cared enough to ask.

Evelyn, barely clinging to life herself due to the unimaginable torture she had endured giving natural birth to this extremely large boy, was never fully aware of his birth, much less his demise.

When she was finally coherent enough to ask about her son, she was told, “He’s just too big and he’s having trouble breathing.”  Robert, who had been celebrating his first son’s birth at a local tavern for a few days, came home to find a house full of Evelyn’s relatives. That alone soured his already hangover-induced disposition, and he gruffly asked to see his son. When told of his loss he immediately left the house to seek solace from those who understood him the best: his drinking buddies and various hangers on.

Because of the total lack of documentation I was never sure whether my big brother was given a proper funeral (although I prefer to think he was), because no one would ever discuss the details of his birth or death beyond the fact that he couldn’t breathe. Without any solid information my young mind was left to imagine what it would have, or should have, been like:

He would’ve been laid to rest in one of those miniature light blue felt covered caskets, lined in soft white satin, a little fringed pillow supporting his head.  A soft round face with just a hint of a smile, chubby little hands laid over his chest with fingers barely inter-twined; a silver chain and crucifix laced gently around his wrists.  There would’ve been a little white cotton headpiece carefully positioned just above the almost transparent eyebrows, and a delicate little white satin frock would’ve been slipped over his oversized body.

In the large dimly lit room with softly flowing organ music, someone from the small group assembled in the first two pews would’ve stepped up to the dark mahogany pulpit positioned just behind the small casket to speak about the baby’s brief little life.  The eulogy would’ve been very short, not much history, but surely a reference to his not being able to breathe properly due to his size would’ve been made.  

Then slowly the small and darkly dressed crowd would’ve filed out following the two youngish strong dark men carrying the little blue box out to the hearse.  A short drive to the burial plot marked by a swaying green tarp bordered in a tan fringe announcing the burial home’s name and surrounded by just a few folding chairs.  No pulpit here as everything that could’ve been said, had already been said.

Serenaded by the sound of morning birds chirping their cheerful songs into the still air the little blue coffin would’ve been lowered into the soft brown earth.  His mother, still not fully recovered from the terribly long and painful labor, and supported by her sisters, would’ve tearfully dropped a single white rose and a small handful of gravelly soil onto the now settled coffin. 

A few days later a nice little stone, announcing his name, birth and death dates would appear at the head of the small mound of turned earth, forever mark his resting place.

Try as I might, my imagination was never able to make out his name on the stone.  And for as long as I would live my brother would forever remain nameless and faceless and totally unknown. 

Yet, to this day I still grieve his loss.

Once, during a visit by my aunt Janie and my aunt Lydia the subject of my brother’s birth and subsequent death accidentally came up after my mother had gone to the kitchen to get some iced tea.  Realizing that they had brought up a subject not to be discussed in front of me they quickly tried to change the subject.

Seeing the opening I asked, “Tia, did you know I had an older brother?”

Looking a bit uncomfortable, and with a quick glance to her sister, she responded,  “Mira, Frankie, you’ll just have to ask your mother or father about that.”

“But they never talk to me about that.  And when I ask they just ignore me.”  I whined.

“Bueno, it’s not for us to say, Panchito,” added Aunt Lydia in a soft whisper.  “When you get older you have to have your mom or dad tell you everything.  But now is not the time to talk about that.”

Entering the room with the iced tea my mother told me to go into the kitchen where she’d poured my iced tea into an old jelly jar and left it on the kitchen table.  That would be the last conversation I ever had with anyone in my family about my oldest brother.

Evelyn’s second pregnancy ended in a miscarriage the year after her first baby’s death. She had been far enough along to know that the aborted child had been male, but the details of the pregnancy and the cause of its loss were also never openly discussed. As before I accidently learned of this event only by overhearing an angry exchange between my father and my mother. I recall the argument was heated and vindictive, and the subject of the lost child had been brought up in an effort to hurt feelings and open old painful wounds. After my father had left the house and all was quiet, I heard my mother’s handkerchief covered sobs and moans, and I knew his words had achieved their intended purpose.

Hoping that the third time would finally prove successful, her next pregnancy was almost carried to full term. However, to everyone’s great disappointment and sorrow, the child was still-born. The suspected cause for the tragedy was apparently due to a heavy fall while walking back home from a visit to her sister’s house a few blocks away.

An inattentive driver, at the very last second, noticed the small pregnant woman trying to navigate the grass strip between the roadway and a deep ditch on the right.  Jerking the steering wheel sharply left in an attempt to avoid a direct hit and wildly banging the horn button, the driver managed to narrowly miss the now airborne pedestrian.

Evelyn’s peripheral vision had caught the speeding car bearing down on her from behind at the same time she heard the horn and the tortured sound of tire rubber sliding on dry concrete.  Hoping to avoid being hit directly she took half a step right and dove off the steep embankment.   Landing heavily on her stomach as she slid down the muddy incline she rolled over onto her back and splashed into the murky water briefly losing consciousness.

The severe pain in her abdomen and the shock of cold water brought her back around, and she found herself half submerged, with one shoe missing and her mouth full of bloody mud.  Pushing herself up onto her elbows she saw that her dress had been ripped off her right shoulder and the bracelet Bob had given her a few months ago was gone.

It took all her strength to crawl back up the slippery incline, pausing frequently to let the sharp blasts of abdominal pain wash over her body.  Burying her fingers in the soft mud and bringing her skinned knees up as far as they would go under her swollen belly, she would resume her slow climb as soon as the throbbing waves would subside.  Finally reaching the top she thought she saw a couple of women running to her just before losing consciousness again.

She knew she should’ve gone to the hospital, but having saved just enough money to pay the midwife for the upcoming birth the decision was made to just nurse her superficial wounds and stay in bed.  Besides, after a couple of days the abdominal pain had disappeared completely and the baby’s kicks had suddenly ended.  Although not discovered until the baby had been stillborn, her fall had done extensive damage to the fetus—including causing the umbilical to wrap around the neck, slowly choking it to death.  Evelyn had lost another son.

The following year she found herself pregnant again and to hear my mother tell it, her pregnancy with me was more of a “waiting for the other shoe to drop” event than one of impending joy. When I finally did arrive on a hot and muggy August afternoon, much was made of the fact that I had arrived all the proper appendages in place.  I was shaped somewhat normally, and to everyone’s surprise was actually breathing. However, the bad news, yet to come, was that I turned out to be quite the sickly child: skinny, plagued with bouts of whooping cough, anemia, ear infections and asthma. Frightened that death would eventually lay claim to her fourth child, my mother begin to look for help to assist her in the mysterious art of motherhood.

Go Ahead—You’ll Like It!

Although the surrounding neighborhood was Hispanic and predominantly Catholic, there was a tiny Pentecostal church a few blocks away. The congregation was small, but noisy and enthusiastic, and services were held twice a week with the main gathering on Sunday nights. One of the members of the flock, a Señora Sánchez, was a small round woman; age fifty, or so, who had subsequently lost her husband very early in their marriage without ever having had any children of her own.  After his death at the hands of one of his drinking partners at a local bar she vowed to commit her life to three things: one—to forever remain a widow; two—to dedicate her life to Christ and the Pentecostal religion; and third—to devote all of her maternal energies and instincts to all the little children in the world.

So while the small and vibrant Pentecostal congregation was celebrating the life and death of Jesus Christ in the main hall, she could be found in a small back room of the church babysitting the children of the attending families.  Although devoutly religious it was in that little room, surrounded by children of various ages, that she found her true happiness.

Early one Saturday morning while shopping at a small fruit market in the neighborhood, my mother noticed, and was approached by a plainly dressed, middle aged, slightly overweight woman.  Señora Sánchez had seen my mother several times on those Saturdays, but was mostly interested in the little boy she always had close to her side.  Finally dredging up the courage to strike up a conversation, she approached my mother and asked how old the child was. After a few minutes of exploratory prattle the woman had learned the child’s name and age, where they lived, and who Evelyn was married to.  Finally getting to the subject that had prompted her to begin a conversation with my mother in the first place she asked her where she attended church.  “We don’t attend any church.” My mother plainly answered.

Seeing the opening she had been hoping for, Señora Sánchez immediately extended an invitation to the upcoming Sunday school service at their little church a few blocks away.  “It’s very informal,” she added, “and we always welcome visitors; especially young families.  We have a little nursery in the back where I take care of the children while the parents attend the service.”  She added.  “I’m in charge of them so if you and your husband come on Sunday I’d be glad to take care of this little one.” stroking the child’s head gently as she spoke.

“¿Verdad mijito?”  (Isn’t that right, little one?)

Shying away, the little boy pulled closer to his mother and hid his face in her dress.

Evelyn, having already lost three babies, and with the fourth one seemingly stepping on death’s door every time he coughed or got a fever, was already in the early stages of the dark emptiness and desperation that would ultimately follow her to her grave.

Thinking that maybe going to church might help her with those gloomy moods she was starting to fall into more often than not, she quickly accepted the invitation.  After all, she thought, married life for me has not turned out to be what I imagined it would be.  

For her, that initial exhilaration of sharing her life with someone other than her sisters and brother had quickly been extinguished after about the third year of marriage, after Bob began not coming home after work on Fridays.  And now he seemed a lot more interested in spending his time, and the precious little money they had, with his friends—none of whom she’d ever been given the opportunity to meet. Whenever she got up enough courage to ask him where and with whom he’d spent the night he would get terribly angry and say a lot of insulting and spiteful things.  Afterwards he’d leave again.

At first she thought that maybe the loss of the babies had affected him so much that he had needed to drink and spend time with other people just to forget.  But when little Frankie had been born alive Bob’s drinking had not lessened at all.  In fact, she thought it’d gotten worse.  So for her, married life had become an agonizingly painful and horribly lonely experience.  What with nursing the boy through his many illnesses, keeping their little house clean and tidy, cooking mostly for her and the boy, and endlessly waiting for Bob to come home at all hours of the night had all but destroyed her youthful dreams of a happy and secure marriage.  She needed something else in her life—and that something had maybe just shown up.

Without hesitation Evelyn told Señora Sánchez that she and Frankie would be happy to attend the church service tomorrow morning.

“And, of course, your husband will come too?”   Señora Sánchez asked.

“Bueno pués, no se.” Evelyn responded.  “He’s very busy with work—in fact, he’s at work now even though it’s Saturday.” she lied.  “So he’ll probably want to stay home and rest all day tomorrow.  No, it’ll just be me and Frankie, I think.”

“¡Sí, como no!”  Señora Sánchez gleefully said, smiling broadly at Frankie.  “I can’t wait to see you both there tomorrow!  Mira, el servicio starts at nine, and la Sunday school begins at ten.  Then afterwards, around eleven, we sing some hymns, y el pastor preaches el sermon.  Terminamos at noon.”

“Oh, that’s good,” Evelyn said happily.  “Bob will want me to be home to make lunch by at least by one.  He likes to have everything on the table when he wakes up tired after working hard all day Saturday.”

With that they said their goodbyes, hugged briefly, and Señora Sánchez gave Frankie a noisy wet kiss on his forehead.  Turning on her heel and dragging the boy behind her, Evelyn’s brow furrowed and her lips tightened with the worry of how and when to break the news to Bob.  With any luck he may not even be home yet, giving her a chance to polish up her delivery.

Walking quickly and deep in thought, she ignored the fact that Frankie was having a bit of trouble keeping up.  Not hearing his cries and ignoring the sharp tugs he was giving her hand every time he tripped she thought, Well, I’ll just tell him the truth.  I want to go!  And, if he doesn’t want to go with me I can always just go on my own.  I won’t let him talk me out of it, or let him stop me from going.  After all, what’s the harm?  It’ll be something different, and God knows I need something different in my life.  And if Frankie gets cranky like he always does, there’ll be someone there to watch and take care of him.  So, that’s that!!

Señora Sánchez, looking at the young mother quickly walking away gave silent thanks to her God.  Gracias Jesucristo, she prayed, you have brought me another niño.  Hurrying to finish her shopping she couldn’t wait to tell her church sisters and brothers (and especially the pastor) that their small membership may soon grow just a little larger.

Knowing what I know now it’s not hard for me to understand why my mother would so readily agree to go to church.  The loss of her first three children, a marriage that had so far proven to be very disappointing, and a future that was looking more and more unsure, would’ve surely made her want to look for anything that may offer some kind of change in her life.  But what’s really puzzling is how she ever convinced my father to accompany her to that first Sunday service.     

A Good Start—A Bad Ending

For the next year Bob, Evelyn, and little skinny me faithfully attended that little church. Prayer services, speaking in tongues, special offerings, baptisms, both spiritual and watery, and near exorcisms failed to improve my health. As if to spite the Pentecostal membership’s very spirituality I just ended up getting sicker. Croupy, phlegmy and prone to high fevers and diarrhea, I resisted every effort the little congregation made to implore God to cure my ills.

One Sunday morning, and not without some warning, Bob and Evelyn just stopped going to that little Pentecostal church.

The end had started quite gradually.  At first the warm and sincere attention paid us by the congregation was pleasing to my parents.  Being the newest, but more importantly, the youngest family attending the church gave us a certain superstar status within a membership that was comprised of mostly much older couples.  After a few weeks of attending church my father had all but stopped drinking and staying out all night; and instead began to give my mother money on Friday for her to go clothes shopping for us on Saturday.

On Sundays we were easily the best dressed family in church:  me, in little suits with short pants and suspenders; my mother in natty little hats, silk hose and heels; and dad in dark suits and silk ties.  Things were going so good that even the weekend arguments between my parents had all but ceased.

Then, one day….

To him, I think that the church going basically began to interfere with his desire to impress and entertain people.  Probably the necessity to at least appear somewhat devout began to put a serious dent in the “social” side of his personality.  He was extremely outgoing and really loved raucous company.  Telling jokes and generally being the life of the party was certainly his strong suit.  In church he wasn’t able to really be himself and so that quickly became uncomfortable.  Since the majority of the membership was much older and seemed to be a whole lot more serious about spiritual devotion than he was, he began to get bored.

At first, the church services had only been held a couple of days a week—Sunday being the most important attendance day.  But as the membership grew additional services were added during the week.  Now, the pushy pastor had expected them to attend church on Tuesday and Friday nights, in addition to Sunday morning.  Not long after, Sunday evening services had also been added.  That constant back and forth to church services began to wear on him, along with the insistence that he must very soon dedicate his life to Jesus by formally declaring salvation and being baptized.

He must have thought that anyone with any sense could see that after working hard all week for that son of a bitching boss at the paint shop he needed–no, deserved, some entertainment; and that did not include having to listen to some ancient holy roller accuse him of being a sinner.  God, church, and the Pentecostals were certainly not even getting close to providing the lifestyle that Bob felt wanted.

It was excruciating for him to have to sit there and listen to a bunch of stupid Mexicans telling him (indirectly, but with accusing eyes from the pulpit) that because he was a sinner he was for sure going to spend eternity burning in Hell.

Well, what the hell did they know, he thought?  As far as he could see, they, for the most part, were in worse shape that he was.  Poor, illiterate, and laborers, they were.  He at least had a decent job.  And, By God, he was no Mexican.  So what if he wanted to spend his money having a good time?  Why did they expect him to give them ten percent of this hard-earned wages?  Was that supposed to get him into heaven?  What did they know?

My mother, on the other hand, had a whole different perspective on the issue.  For the price of having to sit through a few fire and brimstone sermons a week, listening to a bunch of off key hymn-singing, and joining a prayer circle with a group of grandmotherly women, she had her hubby home every night and a bunch of new clothes to boot.  Not a bad trade-off.

But as time went on she began to notice that Bob was losing interest in this church thing.  Where at first he would talk to her about how interesting so-and-so had been during Sunday school, now he was constantly criticizing how long winded and boring the lesson had been.  It pissed him off that after church services he’d be surrounded by most of the male membership and harassed about his soul not being saved.  And, what about that tithing business?  It seemed that all of a sudden the pastor was more interested in him being saved so he could devote his life to Christ and pay ten percent of his pay.

She started to worry.

Apparently sensing that the DeLeón family was starting to fade away, Señora Sanchez put together a little holy raiding party and made some attempts at home visits to try to reinvigorate my parents.  But in spite of their tenacity they met with a disappointed and now clearly panicked young woman.  Seeing them pull up in their station wagon, my father, rather than face them would go out the back door and beat a hasty retreat.  It was quickly becoming a lost cause, and the little religious group slowly began to understand.

Instead of attending every service, my father began to miss a few here and there.  My mother still made the effort by asking one of the sisters to come by and give her a ride to the church, but my dad refused to go.  After a while my mother ran out of steam and stopped attending also.  The little visiting group eventually got the hint and stopped coming.

A few months later we moved to the next, in a painfully long list of shabby rental homes, and my father resumed, and with great determination, began to perfect his drinking binges.

During the next ten years I went on to develop a full blown case of asthma, broke my right arm, suffered horrible debilitating stomach aches, and cultivated a hearty case of athlete’s foot.  That last malady kept me out of school for three weeks one time so I didn’t think it was so bad.  I was skinny, suffered from heart palpitations and could throw up at will.  But against all odds, I survived.  And for that my mother was eternally grateful.

*******

More than five hundred Sunday morning services had passed when Señora Sanchez, seated in her favorite pew, turned to her left and spotted a young teenage boy sitting behind her.  Dressed in a worn white shirt and badly knotted tie, he was nervously wiping his sweating face with a thin handkerchief.  She took note of the boy’s hooded brown eyes and the deep dimple on his chin.  His profile was tantalizingly familiar.  But it was when he turned to his right and looked directly at her that she was sure.

Staring intently at him she caught his eye.  Smiling widely she nodded knowingly and thought: you’re him, aren’t you?  You’re Robert and Evelyn’s son, Frankie.  Praise God, praise Jesus.

Come Home My Love, Please Come Home

Come Home My Love, Please Come Home

The Spark of Love

It was on a dare, and after much prodding, that Evelyn Gómez had finally decided to join her older sister, Juanita and her new beau Leonard, on a double date to an afternoon minor league baseball game in Houston during the summer of 1938. She didn’t particularly enjoy baseball, nor any other American sport for that matter, but Leonard was bringing one of his best friends, and although she had never met him her sister couldn’t stop raving about his fantastic good looks. Tall, fair skinned, a great dresser and a real gentleman, was how he was described. And, best of all, he had a good job. No promises, no strings attached, this was just going to be a very informal trip to the ballpark. If all went well Juanita was sure the boys would spring for an early dinner and have them home before dark.

Evelyn was barely twenty, a few years younger than Juanita, and had not really dated that much. She’d never had a steady boyfriend, not because she wasn’t attractive, but in those days the pickings were pretty lean in the eligible single men department. The ones she had gone out with were usually Mexican, and were in one way or another related to one her girlfriends. They were brothers and cousins normally, and they all shared several common traits: homely, uneducated, horny and broke. Her experience with dating had so far consisted of going to the occasional movie, where her time was spent fending off clumsy attempts at groping, then being taken straight home via the cheapest public transportation available (city bus, usually), or to some dance club with the end result being about the same. Once home she would go into the kitchen to search for some leftovers since most of her dates hardly ever bought dinner.

Short, a little over five feet tall, she was blessed with a curious nature and a healthy sense of humor. Her eyes were by far her most attractive feature, framed by a round face, thin but sensuous lips and a rich olive complexion. She was a twin, and her brother shared her sense of humor but little else. Where she was industrious and energetic he tended to be a bit lazy and flippant about taking on responsibilities.  Her early years had been spent traveling between Houston, San Antonio and Mexico. Her parents, and the sisters and brother when they were old enough, would work in each city for several months, save what money they could, and travel back to Mexico. Since clothing and food was cheaper there they would stock up, stay a few weeks, and then travel back to Texas. Her parents had been born in Mexico, and the Gómez clan lived there, but she and her brother, and all the sisters, had been born in San Antonio, Texas.

With all the traveling back and forth school had been difficult. At about the age of nine, and having just finished the third grade, she returned to Mexico with her family for what was supposed to be a few weeks. A year later the family moved back to Houston and she never returned to school. After all, her father surmised, she could pretty much read, write and speak English well enough already. She and her brother would be more useful at home helping their mother and the other sisters  with the cleaning, cooking, washing and mending. The older sisters would continue going to school (although only a couple actually completed high school) since they were just a few years from finishing. Early marriages put an early end to their formal education, and the Gómez family shrunk in size in the next few years until only Evelyn, Juanita and Marcus were accompanying the parents on their pilgrimages to Mexico. By the time Evelyn met Leonard’s friend Robert, she hadn’t been to Mexico in three years.

The afternoon was typically Houston, hot and humid. Leonard drove up in his car and gleefully tooted the horn. Evelyn and Juanita, having been ready for at least two hours stood by the closed door and waited until Leonard’s tooting went from short staccato blasts to long impatient ones. Satisfied that the boys wouldn’t think them too anxious they slowly opened the door and majestically walked out.

Riding shotgun was a young man who could have easily just driven in from Hollywood and Evelyn’s heart skipped a beat. Swinging open the door on the little black Ford sedan Robert Frank De León was wearing a dark gray double-breasted suit and a pair of beautifully spit shined black shoes. On his head sat a black fedora, cocked slightly left, with the brim barely and fashionably shading his eyebrow and cheek. As he stepped out to open the back door for her she noted his neatly trimmed pencil line mustache and his light hazel eyes.  She flashed a grand smile and slid into the right rear seat in a swirl and crackle of freshly starched skirts. Juanita popped the other door, jammed an elbow into Evelyn’s side, and with pursed lips and wide eyes mouthed, “See, I told you so.”

Later, after Leonard had parked the car in the grass just short of the left field fence, Robert jumped out and opened the door for her.  As she stepped onto the running board she noticed that he had removed his fedora and was holding it behind his back with one hand as he offered her the other.  Having had to stare at the back of his hat during the trip to the ball field she tried to remember just exactly what he had looked like in those first few seconds when he opened the door.  Now, as she stepped out she took full measure of his face.

In the bright sun his pencil line moustache that she assumed was black had turned out to be red, but his eyebrows were dark and contrasted nicely on his pale face.  His smile was dominated by teeth that were not only snow white but perfectly aligned.  His skin, well, it was still white but it now seemed tinged with a bit of roguish red around the cheeks.  And the sun behind him lit up his ears like red Halloween lanterns.  Realizing that she was staring, she quickly looked down at the ground only to see that her foot was about to ruin that beautiful shiny black sheen on Robert’s shiny black shoes.

Whispering a little curse in Spanish (he wouldn’t understand anyway) she tried to cover her clumsiness by feigning a little impatience.  Trying to quickly recover she flipped her head back causing a pesky little pin curl, that had taken her half the morning to create, to go sliding off the little pompadour perched on the top of her forehead. Walking quickly around the front of the car to join her sister she noted that he had, in fact not reacted at all to her curse word; assuring her that he did not understand.  Most Mexican men, she thought, would’ve either laughed it off, or chastised me for using language reserved for them.  Hmm, gringos.

A few hours later some of the glitter of the afternoon date had begun to fade.  The ball game was boring, it was hot, and Evelyn had begun to doubt that Robert had any interest in her at all.  Oh sure, he was handsome and polite in a “gringo” sort of way, but God, not only was he too pale and skinny, he didn’t seem to be able to speak Spanish!  He was spending all his time talking to Leonard about the game and seemed to be ignoring her on purpose.  She was sure he thought he was a bit too good for her.

After the boys had gone off for some more refreshments, and as soon as they were safely out of earshot, Evelyn turned to Juanita and through clenched teeth and in heated Spanish, asked her why she set her up with a gringo.

“I don’t know that he is”, quipped Juanita.  “Leonard says he makes good money and lives pretty high on the hog.”

Rolling her eyes and turning to stare at her sister she said, “But, he’s a gringo, I can tell. Getting out of the car I tripped and stepped on his shoe, and I said ‘cabrón’.”

“And?” Juanita asked coldly.

“And, he just kept grinning in that stupid gringo way.”

“Maybe he was just being nice.”

“What?  You know how men are when they hear women curse.  They either shit all over themselves or start lecturing, or they figure you’re some type of whore and an easy mark”.  “And”, she continued, “you know the only reason a gringo would agree to date a Mexican girl, don’t you?”

“I think you’re really getting carried away with this.”  Juanita said with a heavy tone of impatience.  “I really never asked Leonard about Robert’s nationality, and I really don’t care.  If you’re going to be stuffy about it just don’t talk to him in Spanish—or at all.  I don’t care!”

“OK fine, then I just won’t talk to him!”  Evelyn snapped back.

And so, she didn’t.  Returning with the refreshments (and probably after a suggestion from Leonard) Robert began to pay a bit of attention to her and started to make small talk.  He covered the weather, the pace of life in Houston, fishing conditions in Galveston Bay, and the latest dance craze.  It was all for nothing.  Evelyn continued to stare out onto the ball field where eighteen other stupid gringos were playing that stupid gringo game.  He kept talking.

Finally, in her best English she said, ” Robert, don’t you ever shut up?”

His initial look of shock at the minor insult slowly dissolved into his most winning smile.  “Call me Bob, everybody else does.”

Bob?  Bob?  That did it!  Gringo!  No God-fearing Mexican male would have a name like “Bob”.   Boy, was she going to give Juanita the business when they got home.  But Juanita, instead of sharing Evelyn’s shock said sweetly, “Oh, that’s better than Robert.  And, you can call me Janie!”

The rest of the date went slowly downhill for Evelyn.  He continued to make small talk—but maybe not as enthusiastically as before.  She answered his questions and responded to his comments with low and almost unintelligible murmurs consisting of curse words and deathly insults…all in Spanish.  No gringo would ever take Evelyn for an easy mark.  Nope!  In her mind she kept repeating her most favorite declaration:  “¡Yo no me dejo de nada or nádie!”  (I’m not a pushover for anyone or anything).

On the way home Leonard suggested they all go to a small Mexican restaurant for dinner.  Janie asked Evelyn if she wanted to go (in English), and Evelyn responded (in Spanish) that she’d rather dine in Hell with Satan himself than go anywhere with this pale, slick gringo. Janie gave Evelyn the look that all older sisters give when the young one misbehaves.  As if on cue they all turned to look at Bob.  There he sat with a little smile, blinking his hazel eyes, seemingly at peace with the world.  Typical, thought Evelyn.

After dinner Leonard looked at his watch and suggested to Bob that it was time to take the girls home.  Bob jumped up and moved behind Evelyn to pull back her chair when she got up.  She continued to sit until finally Bob took his hands off the backrest and took a step back.  Evelyn slowly got up, never even looking at Bob and walked out to the car.

Settling in for the ride home it was really quiet.  Leonard and Janie’s conversation had run out of steam, and Evelyn was continuing with her rude asides in Spanish.  Bob started humming.  Great!  As they pulled up to the Gómez home, Bob stepped out and opened Evelyn’s door.  Being careful not to step on anything other than mother earth she kept her eyes to the ground.

As she passed by him, Bob said softly, “I really had a good time and I want to apologize for whatever it was that I did to make you angry.  I really like you, and would like to see you again.”

Evelyn stopped cold!  What?  What did he say?  As she slowly turned to face his handsome white smiling face her shock only grew stronger.  She wanted to answer…say something…anything.  But she couldn’t.  She turned back and started toward her front porch, her heart racing.  The sharp volt of shock went through her body as she realized that the words he had used were in Spanish.  She was quickly beginning to feel a heavy cloud of shame.  As her foot took the first step she again heard his voice:

“Allí nos vemos, mi hermosita.”  Bob said sweetly.  (We’ll see each other again, my little beauty).

His Spanish had been flawless, melodious, and it echoed wildly in her head.  Her heart sank, then swelled, and she thought she was going to faint.  He not only spoken beautiful Spanish, but now she realized that he had understood everything she’d been saying to him the entire day.  Mostly insults.

“Dios mío, ¿qué he hecho?”  (My God, what have I done?), was the only thing she kept repeating over and over in her mind.

Several days later her mood had gone from panic and remorse to anger and humiliation.  How could he have done that to me?  She thought angrily.  He knew that I was making a fool of myself when I was saying all those insulting things in Spanish and all he did was smile!  God, I hate him!  And if I ever get the chance I will pay him back!!

A few days later, and seemingly in a good mood, Evelyn asked her sister if she was planning on seeing Leonard anytime soon.

“Sure, we’re planning on going out somewhere this weekend, why?”

“Well”, Evelyn said quietly, “I was thinking that maybe instead of just you and Leonard going out you could invite him—oh, and his friend Bob, over here for dinner.”

“I thought you didn’t like him!”  Janie asked, a bit surprised.

“Oh, he’s OK.  But I just felt that we got off on the wrong foot and I thought maybe by having him come over here we could be a bit more comfortable and get to know each other better.  You know, the way to a man’s heart?”

“¡Tonta!” Janie spit out.  “I swear I can’t make heads or tails of you.  I’ll have to ask to see if Leonard can get him to come over!  I don’t know if he’ll even want to after you treated him so badly.”

“Bueno mira (look), we could find out what he likes to eat and maybe cook it up for him.”

“Hmph!”  Janie grunted.  “You mean me cook it up, don’t you?  You know you don’t cook so well.”

“Sí, tú o yo, either one, or both of us.  Pero mira, maybe instead of finding out what he likes we could find out what he doesn’t like, so we don’t make something he won’t like to eat.”

“No se (I don’t know).  Pero, ummm… I’ll ask and let you know.”

The following Friday afternoon after Evelyn had returned from a little part time job she had gotten at a local olive packing factory, Janie found her and said, “Well, if you still want to have Bob and Leonard come over for dinner it’ll have to be Sunday afternoon because they both work on Saturday.”

“Oh, that’s fine,” Evelyn said.  “Do you know what they don’t like?”

“Bueno pués, Leonard likes everything, and so does Bob—well, except for tongue.  Bob said he doesn’t like beef tongue.  But everything else is OK.”

“Humph!”, Evelyn snorted.  “Who would even think of serving tongue to someone who’s coming over for dinner the first time anyway?  That’s crazy.”

“Well, now you know.  Any ideas on what we can cook?”

“A mí me gusta el menudo,” Evelyn stated.  “You think menudo would be OK?”

“¿Como no?”  Janie responded.  “¡A todos los Mexicanos les gusta el menudo!”

“Good!”  Evelyn said enthusiastically.  “But I want to make it on my own.  ¡Yo sola!”

“Are you sure?” Janie quizzed, a little surprised.

“¡Sí! I want to make a good impression on Bob.”

“OK, ¿quieres que vaya a las compras contigo? (You want me to go shopping with you?)

“No, no es necesario,”  Evelyn said emphatically.  “Ya sé lo que tengo que comprar.”  (I know what I have to buy).  “No es la primera vez que prepare el menudo.”  (It’s not the first time I’ve made menudo).

Saturday evening Evelyn busied herself in the kitchen until very late, making all the preparations for the menudo that had to simmer for hours before it could be served the following day.  Janie had told her she’d prepare the salad and maybe make some buñuelos for dessert.  Evelyn thought that would be a grand idea.

Dinner Is Served

For the special day Janie and Evelyn had gotten up early and made sure the little home the family had been renting was sparkling.  They had even asked the next-door neighbor, an elderly widow living on her husband’s pension, if she might have a nice dressy table cloth to cover the plain wooden dining table.  The neighbor went one further and gave them some really nicely embroidered cushions to put on the seats of the hardwood chairs.

“Can’t have the nice boys sitting on hard chairs while enjoying the taste of menudo and the sight of two pretty women, ¿verdad?”  She said, with a little twinkle in her eye.

Right on time the two guests arrived.  Leonard was wearing a white silk shirt, open at the collar, and a pair of navy gabardine slacks.  Bob, on the other hand, was again dressed to the nines.  A dark gray double-breasted sharkskin jacket was neatly buttoned over a stiffly starched white dress shirt collared with a deep red silk tie expertly knotted in a half Windsor.  A sharply pleated pair of light gray slacks hung at just the right length over a new pair of richly buffed cordovans.  Hatless today, his hair was glossy and slicked back with a razor sharp part highlighting his shiny white scalp.

Evelyn momentarily forgot the reason they were there; forgot how to breathe and almost forgot her own name.  Before she could mumble any kind of greeting, Bob produced a small bouquet of fresh flowers in pink tissue paper.

“Para ti, hermosita”, he said while locking her with his gaze.

“¿Qué?” She managed to say.

“Evelyn!!  Janie finally said with a little annoyance in her voice.  “Take the flowers and put them in water!  Come on, what’s wrong with you?”

“Oh, nothing.  Sí, water.”  And with that Evelyn broke the lock Bob’s eyes had put on her and off she went in search of a vase.

Returning from the kitchen and recomposed, she placed the flowers in the center of the table.  Janie had shown the boys into the tiny front room that performed multiple duties depending on who was home at the time and what the occasion was.  Today it was a neat little living room.

There was no couch or love seat but four  raggedly ancient overstuffed chairs had been strategically positioned in the room and covered in gaily colored sheets—also serving double duty.

Seeing Evelyn enter the room Bob immediately stood up from his chair and offered it to her with a grand sweep of his hand.

“No, gracias,” she stuttered.  “I can sit over there.”

He sat back down with sigh, crossed his long legs and locked her with his gaze again.

The richly pungent aroma of simmering menudo hanging heavily in the warm and humid air finally reminded Evelyn and Janie that small talk and lingering looks between Bob and Evelyn had to come to a close.  Evelyn hurried into the kitchen to tend to the pot while Janie brought the salad out to the table.  The two men stood, and while removing their jackets smiled knowingly at each other.

Evelyn took everyone’s salad bowls to the sink and returned to the dining room with four larger bowls and mismatched soupspoons.

“¿Todos quieren menudo?” she asked tentatively.

“¡Sí!” was the unanimous response.  And off she went to the kitchen to pour the steaming menudo from the large pot into a smaller serving bowl.

After serving everyone she whispered, almost to herself, that she hoped everyone liked the way she cooked the menudo.  Dipping the large soupspoons into the broth and getting their first taste they all shook their heads and made yummy-like sounds.

Well, everyone except Janie.  After having her first taste of the soup she spooned out a portion of what supposed to be tripe.  Taking a tentative bite out of the chunk of flesh with only her front teeth, she chewed twice and began to glare at Evelyn.

Ignoring her sister’s burning stare Evelyn began eating the menudo with gusto.  Glancing at Bob she asked, “¿Te gusta?”

“This is the best menudo I’ve ever tasted!” he replied, and scooped up a big serving of beef tripe.

“Hmmm, that’s good, Bob,” she said.  “Leonard?  How do you like it?”

“Yes, it really good”, Leonard replied, but what’s the meat?  I don’t think it’s tripe, is it?”

“No”, Evelyn proudly announced.  “The butcher didn’t have fresh tripe so I bought beef tongue instead.  It almost tastes the same.  Don’t you think, Bob?”

Janie’s eyes were darting back and forth while holding her napkin tightly against her mouth.

Without missing a beat, Bob scooped up another chunk of tongue and slurped it off the spoon.  Busily chewing the rubbery meat he cheerily said, “Best menudo ever!”

 Take Me Lord, It’s Over

In January of 1939, Bob and Evelyn were married in Houston, Texas. To save money they arranged to have the ceremony and a small reception at her  sister Janie’s  house. Her parents did not attend because they were in Mexico, and his parents had died many years ago.  Leonard served as the best man and Janie was the maid of honor.

He asked that none of his siblings attend.

Their official wedding portrait shows two young people in the prime of life, she sweetly smiling, and he with a serious look of self-confidence and a little hint of a smile. The small bulge under Evelyn’s white laced wedding dress, not noticeable to anyone at this stage, would’ve been the only flaw in this otherwise blissful scene. Their union would fitfully endure for more than fifty years.  But finally, in the end, it would die a slow and excruciatingly painful death.

The sweet dreams and wildly high expectations this young couple once had entertained would eventually succumb to the black bitterness of unfaithfulness and taste the deep despair that inevitably accompanies extreme loneliness and desperation.  Evelyn’s last day on earth would dawn on the white crispness of fresh hospital linen and in the soft warming light of the morning sun strained through the glass of a thick thermal hospital window.

Having been in a deep coma for six months, the fragile glow of her life would begin to slowly fade away as the tumor growing in her brain cruelly choked off her robust determination to live.  And with a small, almost unperceivable shudder, she left this earth to finally rest forever.

On that cool and sunny November day as her broken heart faltered and slowly stopped, the spark of her sad life flickered weakly.  After so many years of loneliness she had finally arrived at the end of her long, lonely, and futile vigil:  Fruitlessly searching the dark empty horizon for Robert.  Then she prayed her eternal prayer one last time:  Please God, bring my only true love back home to me now.  Please…..God.

She died alone.

If Down Didn’t Work, Up It Is!

If Down Didn’t Work, Up It Is!!

Testing The Holy Waters

Having been disappointed with, and worse let down by the Dark Side my mom instead decided to turn to elsewhere for some other worldly assistance. Heaven was her next obvious choice.

Just before bedtime late one Saturday evening she announced that in the morning we would begin attending church. Since we didn’t have a reliable car (she didn’t know how to drive anyway) our choice of places of worship was pretty limited, so the obvious pick had to be the Catholic Church located about three blocks away. Her announcement came as a surprise because I had never attended any kind of church, and to my knowledge she hadn’t either, so I really didn’t know what to expect. Turning on her heel she ordered me to get plenty of sleep because we were getting up early.

Although I was quite familiar with the little church on House Street, having passed it twice a day every day on my way to and from the school bus stop, I had never actually ventured onto the property it was situated on. From my sidewalk view the grounds sported a fine cover of lush green grass dotted randomly with small areas of brightly colored flowers. This was in stark contrast to some of the yards in our neighborhood (including ours), which were dominated with grayish-green clumps of sprouting weeds randomly interrupted by the occasional cluster of dandelions swaying gently in the breeze. On either side of the church were a couple of metal statues, probably saints, heads streaked white and green from countless deposits of pigeon poop, arms extended, ever gazing pleadingly skyward. And at the rear of the property stood a series of single story buildings, wrapped in soft beige colored brick, with windows shuttered in deep red stained cedar. These, I found out much later, were used to house the priest-in-residence and the church’s covey of nuns.

During the school year I occasionally spotted a few nuns, usually in pairs, gracefully and magically gliding across the grass in their long black dresses with their heads bowed serenely and their hands clasped reverently just below their bosoms. They never seemed to look up or around—they just floated forward, terribly mysterious and stunningly exotic. Black swans.

Curious as to what had prompted her to make this choice I finally asked my mother why she had decided to attend Catholic Church.

“Well,” she said stoically, “if it’s good enough for the neighbors it’s good enough for us. After all, it must be the right thing to do because most of the husbands bring home their paychecks.”

Ah, it was a money thing. Got it!

The next morning after being nudged awake I was ordered to make sure to take a really good bath.

“And, don’t forget to scrub good behind those ears, mijo!” Mom chided.

Growing up for me was never easy. What most people took for granted as just normal events in their life were to me major operations. And that would include taking daily baths. The first time I recall taking a shower with real hot and cold water on tap was on the first morning after my enlistment in the Air Force at Lackland Air Force Base, in San Antonio, Texas. I was eighteen years old.

Since we didn’t have any kind of water heater in our rented single frame three room house, my mother would fill a couple of buckets with water and set them on our little four burner gas stove to heat up. When ready she would take the metal buckets filled with bubbling boiling water and empty them into a metal wash tub that she’d set inside the old porcelain bathtub in our tiny bathroom. Then she’d run cold water from the old squeaky faucet into the boiling water to finally bring it down to a tolerable temperature.

After undressing I would climb into the bathtub and squat down or sit on the cold porcelain. Using a metal ladle I scooped out the warm water from the metal tub and poured it over my head to wet myself down. After dipping a raggedy washcloth into the water I would soap it up with whatever soap bar, or combination of soap bars stuck together we happened to have that particular day, and scrub away. Again filling the ladle I would rinse off and repeat the process until I was squeaky clean. I was always careful not to use up all the water in the metal tub so that my mom would only have to heat up one more bucket of water for her bath.

Stepping out of the tub that morning I saw that she’d already laid out a pair of white boxer shorts, a red plaid flannel shirt and my best pair of school jeans. On the floor was my only pair of shoes, cheap brown oxfords; each shoe stuffed with a white cotton sock.

Walking out of the bathroom directly into our slightly larger kitchen I saw that on our pathetic little wooden eating table mom had set out a bowl and spoon alongside an almost empty glass bottle of milk, and a small box of Post Toasties Corn Flakes. Although she always tried her best to seal the cereal box to prevent our resident roach population from raiding it and setting up camp inside, I never failed to conduct a thorough sight inspection, followed by a violent shaking of the cereal box to ensure that only corn flakes ended up floating in my milk.

Finishing up, and after rinsing my spoon and bowl I went into the front room to wait for my mother to finish her bath. The day was breezy and cool, and the brilliant morning sunlight flowed softly through our plain glass windows, filtered by the threadbare linen-like white curtains before softly splashing on the checkered black and white linoleum floor. Staring out and with nothing to do for a while I decided to call for Jerry to tell him where we were planning to go that morning.

Legs crossed and sitting on the floor across from each other I told him we were going to a church. He asked me if I knew what to do once I got there.

“Um, I don’t know, it’s my first time,” I said. “Do you know?”

He shook his head no.

“Well, I’ll know after I get home, then I’ll tell you, OK? Sorry you can’t go.”

But of course he never ever left the house.

Dressed in her best going out dress (one of her two only dresses), my mother came into the room and gave me one last visual going over. I watched cautiously as she began to wrinkle her brow and stare at my forehead. Trying not to panic, I knew what was coming next: the dreaded thumb/spit/simultaneous/eyebrow pastedown!

It kind of went like this. After sticking both thumbs in her mouth to deposit sufficient spit on them she quickly secured each side of my head with her palms and fingertips and proceeded to thumb-squeegee each of my eyebrows at the same time—making sure them babies were properly plastered down. I always tried very hard to resist but with my head in a virtual vise all I ever accomplished was forcing my body to wriggle from the neck down. Both arms would flail violently, my feet sliding on the floor in full reverse gear during this operation. Then suddenly, a quick palm release when she was done and down I went—on my butt on the floor, with my mouth still making highly indignant sounds.

I know she always expected me to resist, but sometimes, if she decided that I had resisted a bit too much she would up the ante by threatening to lick my eyeballs with her tongue. Yes, you read that right, and I swear this is true. It was her sincere belief that if she slathered my eyeballs with her tongue, while holding my eyelids open with her patented death grip, any trash that may have been accidentally swept in would be scooped out—thereby precluding the need for flushing any flotsam out with costly and highly overrated medications like Visine.

Many years later I remain convinced that in a previous life she had to have been a most faithful and caring canine mommy.

Satisfied that I was now humanly presentable she announced that it was time to go. Stepping through the front door and into the bright sunshine we walked across our environmentally toxic yard and headed towards House Street. Dodging the black greasy oil stain that marked my dad’s parking spot on our grayish sandy front yard I asked my mom if she thought dad would be home when we’d finished getting holy.

“Humph! He’d better be home by tonight so he can be ready to go to work tomorrow! ” She growled. “But, we’ll see how he parks his car.”

Without ever having discussed this, my mom and I had devised a rating scale to judge his level of inebriation, whenever he got home, based on his car parking skills. (1) Front wheels straight, all doors and windows closed, and the parking brake set meant he’d come home fairly early and pretty sober. (2) Front wheels still turned far to the right or left, windows open and driver’s door not fully closed and latched, usually meant he’d quit drinking while he still knew who he was. (3) All windows down with driver’s door fully open, him still in the driver’s seat passed out, one leg hanging out, head thrown back over the backrest with mouth open, right wrist resting on the steering wheel and keys still in the ignition—usually meant my mom would not be finding any money on him. (4) Car missing: may need to ask Aunt Janie for bail money.

Today, there was no car in the yard.

Turning left at the front end of our yard we stepped onto the cracked and heaving sidewalk and began our quest for redemption and salvation.

I had no way of knowing that on that fateful day my long and painful experience with religion had only just begun.

Vini, Vidi, Dormio

Being that it was early Sunday morning there were very few people out and those few that were out were heading in the same direction. Since the church was pretty much walking distance from any house in our neighborhood no one drove his or her car to Mass. If they had there were no parking areas anyway, and leaving your car unattended in the narrow street was not advisable, unless you wished for your car to disappear.

Holding my hand tightly on our short journey my mother gingerly stepped over the large cracks in the sidewalk, mindful to avoid the cracks so as not to “break her mother’s back”. Crossing the last street bordering the church property she angled us off to the left and onto to the large concrete plaza area in front of the church.

Small groups of mostly women were scattered there, each quietly talking and occasionally glancing down at their shoes or primping up their shiny little pin curls. Our arrival caused a few of them to pause their whispers and shoot a few quick glances our way. Then, just as quickly, they would look down and flick away some pesky little clump of invisible lint they’d suddenly found on the front of their outfit.

With not much to say to anyone we drifted over to an unoccupied section of the plaza and waited. Not having an iPhone, or some such modern convenience to check for texts or emails, my mother instead busied herself by winding her already stressed out little wristwatch; the one that had not ever kept good time, but was adorned with a cheap, but shiny, Speidel Twist-O-Flex band.

The men, I noticed, were mostly bare headed, their thick black hair shining brightly from the freshly dabbed layers of Royal Crown hair pomade; a few wild cowlicks here and there resisting uniformity by standing tall and reaching for the sky. The rest wore a variety of sweat ringed cowboy hats perched high on their heads tilted jauntily at a rakish angle.

Their thin wiry brown skinned bodies, some with small sad low riding paunches, were loosely draped in various shades of well dated dusty gray or black suits; thickly cuffed pants not quite reaching the tops of their cracked black leather oxfords or rundown old cowboy boots. For some of these men, the ones who labored long hours working for the Southern Pacific Railroad laying ties, or for those others who spent blistering days tending to the cauldrons of boiling creosote that would eventually end up coating telephone poles or soothing dusty white shell roads, the wearing of Sunday clothing seemed tedious and uncomfortable. Hanger creases on trouser legs that had long forgotten their vertical pleats and the occasional faded underarm sweat ring on baggy jackets spoke to their lack of ever having visited a dry cleaning facility.

Socks? Well…optional for some, white cotton for most.

Because of my father’s reputation for drinking and fighting (he was a mean drunk), and his general unfriendliness toward anyone other than his close friends, we never had much to do with the neighborhood or the neighbors. Most of them, when running into us at Henry’s Store or just walking by our house, would glance briefly and even suspiciously and would quickly lower their heads and quicken their pace.

With no warning the two large wooden doors in front of the church suddenly began to open and the crowd became slightly more vocal. Slowly the people began to shuffle towards the open doors and quietly enter the church. Rather than moving with the crowd my mother instead guided me in the opposite direction to take a position at the very back of the group.

Waiting until everyone had gone through the door, my mother using her favorite hand-on-my-neck grip, guided me through the doors and into what looked like a large dark foyer. Continuing through a second set of very ornate doors I noticed that the old couple we’d been following had just finished dipping their fingers into a cool looking birdbath situated just inside those doors. I looked up to the ceiling to look for birds but saw none.

I was more than a little shocked when I heard the old lady in front of us mumble something and saw her wave her hand around her head and chest. She moved on, bent down on one knee and lowered her head before taking a seat on one of the big benches. I looked to my Mom for a hint but all she did was purse her lips and shrug.

In a show of courageous bravado my mother approached the birdbath, stuck her hand in and ceremoniously wiped her brow. With a few drops of water rolling down her face she gestured to me with her eyes and tilting head for me to do the same. Since I didn’t think I needed my face washed I only dipped three fingers in and scooped up some water. Obviously my Mom had not seen the old lady do the head/chest thing, so I thought I should do my best imitation of the act. All I succeeded in doing was having water drip down my forehead and into my eyes.

With my vision temporarily blurred by the slightly oily water I did an abbreviated chest rub and grabbed for my Mom’s dress to keep my balance. Hearing some lip smacking and tongue clicking around me I assumed that the group of pilgrims preceding us had not been too impressed with our actions, and certainly didn’t approve of my clinging, tripping and eye-rubbing.

My Mom’s neck grip pushed me forward into the cool and dark church and guided me toward the second to last bench on the left. She more or less shoved me in. Suddenly, the sound of more smacking and clicking! Apparently they’d noticed that we had neglected to duck walk a step or two before taking a seat. Too late! This church thing was pretty complicated and not going well at all. My mother, of course, was nonplussed and continued to maintain her air of supreme aloofness. We slid onto the smooth worn bench and prepared to become holy.

After a few minutes my eyes cleared and I looked up at my mother. I was shocked to see that somehow she’d forgotten to put her handkerchief back into her purse after wiping the water from her face. She was wearing it on top of her head! How did it get all the way up there? Was she trying to dry it out? No, I thought, not even my goofy Mom would do that. So, maintaining my own version of complete confidence, and knowing she’d thank me later for saving her embarrassment, I reached up behind her and snatched the cloth off her head. More clicking and smacking preceded a rather moderate left elbow smash to my right temple. She tore the cloth from my hand and placed it back on top of her head, all the while glaring at me and pursing her lips in that “…don’t ever do that again…” way. With her eyes she motioned to me to look around. As I looked back I noticed that all the women were still wearing their scarves and hats. Those that had neither had hitched up the Mexican style shawls that they’d been wearing on their shoulders up to their heads. Very interesting! Suddenly I understood: Mom was only trying to be fashionable…trying to fit in.

Curious now I tried to ask my mom why every female had her head covered inside of the church. But before I could even get two words out she shushed me and cautioned to be quiet and to pay attention. Um, pay attention to what? No one was saying anything, doing anything, and aside from the clicking and smacking behind me the place was like a tomb. Having heard enough of the lips and tongues I turned my head to see what the clickers and smackers looked like. It was then I noticed that the men in attendance were not wearing head coverings. Those that had worn hats outside now had placed them either on their laps or next to them on the bench. Mostly, though, they were sitting very still looking up toward the ceiling and speaking to themselves without making a sound.

In their brown calloused hands they each had a sting of beads that any Indian worth his wampum would be jealous of. The faster they mumbled the more the beads make a circular journey around their fingers. Glancing around to find more beads I noticed that some of the women were glaring at me and motioning me with waves of their hands to turn around. Apparently in church one must always face forward and never look back. Boy, I did I have a lot to learn.

Suddenly, and seemingly out of nowhere, an organ fired up. Ah finally, entertainment! Or, maybe someone was just dusting the keys. The song was mostly unrecognizable and slightly off key; cacophonies of muted and out of tune strains. Didn’t recognize it. My eye caught a movement at the front where there was a large stage dominated they a gigantic statue of a man on a cross in obvious agony. I knew enough to recognize that this was Jesus on the cross, but I had never seen Him quite this large or quite so graphic. He was looking skyward with blood dripping down his face from the crown of thorns and the wound in His side was gruesomely large, with even more blood pouring down the body. The statue was so life-like that it began to affect me in a really disturbing way so I quickly shifted my gaze to the walls where many colorful banners were hanging. That didn’t do me much good because the banners were all in what I now know was Latin. Just then some action began happening on the stage.

From stage right, a man in a large silk gown wearing a really nice looking red and gold bib floated out followed by four boys who I instantly recognized from the neighborhood. Now, two of these guys were named Teyo (short for Mateo) and Alberto, and were the meanest and nastiest thug-bullies I knew. To see them here, wearing fluffy white dresses and looking all holy was more that I could fathom! Worse, they were carrying lit candles, gold cups and were dangling… smoke on a rope!! Interesting!

My mother broke my concentration with a little elbow poke and whispered, “Mira, it’s a priest and those are his altar boys.”

I now believe that with that one sentence she had just about exhausted her entire knowledge base of “The Inner Workings of a Catholic Church”. Turning her gaze back to the front she crossed her arms triumphantly and put on her “I told you so” face.

After a few words spoken to a large book the priest had opened in front of him the altar boys retreated and disappeared from my sight line. What followed had to be the longest ceremony I had ever attended in my young life, mostly dominated by a lot of singsong language from the priest (no microphone), to which the congregation would respond en masse; a lot of standing, then sitting, then kneeling, then sitting again, more standing, over and over again. What really spooked me though was when the congregation began thumping on their chests in response to the sound of a small bell ringing.

After the entire church formed a line and marched up to the stage to have the priest drop something into their open mouths and then drink something from one gold cup that everyone else had drank from, the sermon began. By now the church had started to get a bit stuffy and in spite of the hardness of the benches we were sitting on, I began to drift off. Before long I had succumbed to my ever increasing yawning and dropped off into a deep dreamless slumber.

I vaguely recall my mother shaking me awake and pulling me by the shirt towards the big doors. Once outside she grabbed me by the hand and guided me in the direction of the sidewalk for the walk home. I could tell she was annoyed just by the way she was squeezing the life out of my arm and walking rapidly. Temporarily blinded by the sun the best I could do was keep up and try not to trip on the cracked pavement.

Slowly regaining my senses as we walked I finally asked my mother if we were now Catholics.  She completely ignored me and didn’t say a word until we were home. Finally she simply said, “OK well, after the service I went up and asked the priest if he could get your father to stop drinking. He told me that first I needed to take lessons to become a Catholic so that my prayers would be answered faster. Until then he said all he could do was pray for our souls. He suggested that I come everyday and light a candle and pray to the Virgin Mary. Humph, It was a waste of time.”

“Did it cost us any money?” I asked.

“No. At least his advice was free.”

“Are we going back?”

“No, mijo. We just have to be strong—you and me.”

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Many years later I often wondered what my life would’ve been like had my mother taken that priest’s advice and had become a full-fledged Catholic. I can’t help but think that my view of life in general probably would’ve been very different—not necessarily better, just different.

At that moment in my short life I believed that my experience with religion was surely over. But I was tragically wrong. In a few short months, and after agreeing to an offhanded invitation from a close friend, my life and the lives of my parents, would be radically changed forever. Soon we would be dipped, coated and deep crispy fried in the boiling oil of fiery radicalism otherwise known as the “Latin American League of Christian Churches”.  The Pentecostal Religion was about to thunder down on us and sink its painful claws into our very souls. And before it was all said and done it would drag us through hideously dark labyrinths of hypocrisy, humiliation, and unimaginable spiritual pain. Not only would it mercilessly break my mother’s heart leaving her a confused and broken woman, it would also cruelly drag my father deep into a cesspool of bitter debauchery, far baser than a million bottles of whiskey could have ever done. And lastly, it took an innocent, bright-eyed imaginative boy, full of joy, hopes and dreams, and viciously pulled him headfirst into a nightmarish world of guilt, pity and self-loathing.

Dreams, Chickens, Witches and Dogs

Of Dashed Dreams, Chickens, Witches, and Dogs

Working as a specialty auto painter my father had been churning out a pretty good wage.  His area of expertise was detailed trim painting; that is, painting intricate designs on hoods, doors and trunk lids of freshly restored autos or new cars whose owners wanted to make them one of a kind.  That type of work is now programmed on computers by graphic artists, and printed out as adhesive appliqués that are then applied directly to the automobile.  During my father’s era the design originated in the detail painter’s imagination and was then applied freehand with fine-tipped artists’ brushes using acrylic or lacquer paint.  It was a very difficult process because there was absolutely no room for error and the paint was apt to dry quickly after being applied.  It took not only a vivid imagination but also an extremely steady hand and intensely focused concentration to produce the flawless swirls and flourishes that made up the full detail pattern.  As a fairly young man my father was considered an expert in that field, and those who commissioned his work were prone to overlook his preoccupation with liquor.  Oddly enough, it seemed the more he drank the steadier his hand got, and that put him in great demand.

I guess because he was an artist of sorts he mentally struggled with having to deal with authority in any form.  He was not prone to take orders or accept advice from those who happened to sport titles such as “foreman”, “supervisor”, or “manager”.  He preferred, and most of the time insisted on setting his own work schedule, which often differed greatly from what had been set by his current boss.  Disagreements between him and those unfortunate enough to have him work under their supervision were frequent and often violent, and he was asked to leave (or just walked off the job) many times early in his life.

Even so, he was talented enough that auto paint shops kept hiring him and paying him top salary and my mother and I benefitted greatly from his labors.  During that period of time in some early pictures taken when I was five or six I am smiling broadly while dressed in a natty little beige seersucker suit with short pants, wearing silk socks and shiny brown oxford shoes.  Likewise, my mother was pictured wearing the latest dress styles of the 1940’s, and often sporting stylish hats and the latest open toed patent leather high heel shoes.  Life must’ve been good.

Eventually word must’ve gotten around, and after having left yet another job because of some slight or perceived insult from management the job offers and opportunities began to dry up.  After a few jobless weeks, and with very few options left, my father finally reached out to his older brother Frank in the early 1950’s, and asked for help. As luck would have it Younger Brothers Truck Lines had an opening—but not for a painter. If he wanted a job, my uncle advised him, he would have to start as an apprentice under the supervision of the engine repair shop manager, a feisty, crude, and ill-mannered roughneck nicknamed Red, and learn to be a diesel engine mechanic.  And, he would have to behave and take orders like everyone else.

As he always seemed to do after each career disaster he landed on his feet with the Youngers. As he’d done countless times before, he proved to be a quick study and in just a few weeks he was repairing diesel engines as if he had been doing it his whole life. My mother was thrilled because during this training phase my father had stopped drinking and was actually bringing home his weekly check on Fridays. Things were beginning to look good, and for the first time since I could remember we actually had food in the refrigerator and in the pantry.  One Saturday morning I remember my mother taking me to Sears to buy me two pairs of shoes: one for school and the other for going out.  The good times were back…for a while.

Although he worked for the Youngers for more than twenty years making a decent salary it seemed like we never really gained any ground financially.  At first the drinking put a steady drain on our finances, but even so we were still able to stay afloat probably because he was making really good money.  But a couple of unfortunate events suddenly came crashing down, and the DeLeón family finance boat began to founder.

First, my mother began to complain of a suspicious lump growing in her belly.  She told me, and everyone else that it was a cancerous tumor and she was terminally ill.  My father, justifiably alarmed, finally decided to take her to a doctor for a diagnosis.  It wasn’t cancer, nor was it a tumor; and on July 7th, 1950, my brother, Ricardo (Ricky) Marcos, was born.  For the rest of her days my mother swore to anyone who would listen that she’d had no idea she was pregnant.  This, from a woman who had already experienced a miscarriage shortly after getting married, given birth to a stillborn fetus a year later, and in 1939 had birthed a child weighing in at 13 pounds.  Doomed because of his size, and the fact that he’d been born at home with only a midwife in attendance and no medical followup, he died at three weeks of age.  Finally, in 1942 I was born—apparently successfully.

Inexplicably, the hospital and doctor bills for Ricky’s birth amounted to over $5,000, and not having the money to settle the bill outright my parents were saddled with having to pay it off in monthly installments.  As if her previous medical expenses weren’t enough, the following year my mother began complaining of severe backaches.  My father, already financially stretched to the maximum,  told her she was becoming a hypochondriac, and suggested she apply mustard compresses and take more aspirin.  After passing out from the intense pain one afternoon, she was transported to the hospital by ambulance and diagnosed with multiple kidney stones and diminished renal function.   Three life saving operations later and a long recuperation with an attending nurse at home resulted in an additional $10,000 in medical expenses.  Having no health insurance to cover the added medical expenses the bill was tacked on to the existing previous balance and their monthly payments tripled.  It was more than my father could stand and his descent into a liquor filled abyss began in earnest.

A few years after my dad had started working at Younger Brothers, Red suffered a near fatal heart attack and decided that he’d had enough.  My father took over as Diesel Shop Foreman, and pretty soon was treating his workers the same way Red had.  Although he’d somewhat curtailed his contempt towards authority, it seemed that down deep inside his artistic drive had been choked off by his mundane mechanical duties and the deepening quagmire of medical debt, and his frustration with his current state of affairs began to increase.  Slowly at first, then increasing in frequency, he began to turn Friday paydays into late night parties and soon the long weekend binges resumed.

It was during this trying time that my mother, also extremely frustrated with her medical situation and having to tend to my baby brother, began searching for help from other than worldly sources. Since an earlier brief attempt at becoming a practicing Catholic, or even a Pentecostal, had proven fruitless, she decided that maybe she would try the occult. Asking discreetly around the neighborhood for some leads on anyone who might know of someone practicing some form of dark art, she was eventually referred to a neighbor a couple of blocks away.  After a short visit, this neighbor suggested my mother contact a certain “lady” and arrange a consultation.

On a rainy Saturday afternoon my mother, carrying my brother in her arms, and I caught a city bus and traveled a short distance to an adjacent neighborhood.  We got off the bus in an area that was still predominantly Hispanic, but the homes were a level up from the ones in our neighborhood.  They had actual driveways and the lawns were populated with green St. Augustine grass.

We walked a short distance, with my mother constantly referring to the slip of paper that bore an address, and soon she stopped and quietly told me we had arrived.  Asking me to sit on the stairs and wait for her, she walked onto the porch and knocked on the door.  The door opened, and unable to see who had opened it, I watched my mother and brother disappear into the house.

Being an eight or nine year old child at that time I had no real concept of time passing.  But I do remember that after having occupied myself for a while by digging up roly-polys from the soaked soil in the small flower garden in front of the house, I suddenly heard my mother call.  Looking up I saw her coming down the steps telling me to put the bugs down and to clean my hands.  Briskly, we began walking back down the block to the bus stop.

The mysterious woman with whom my mother met with turned out to be a local “curandera”—a female Mexican witch doctor.  The neighbor who had recommended her told my mother, “She won’t come cheap, but she’ll get the job done—and before you know it Bob will be off the bottle and he’ll bring home every paycheck right on time.”

Going To The Dogs

The promises made by the curandera must’ve sounded like sweet music to my mother’s ears. So, after our visit to her house she began to save money by the only means available to her: she cut into our already pitifully small food budget.  She initiated several plans to accomplish her monetary goal.  The first was to take the two bologna, or pressed ham sandwiches she usually packed for my lunch, and cut them down to one.  The nickel she gave me every day to buy those little half pint glass bottles of milk with the cardboard stopper at school suddenly went missing on Tuesdays and Thursdays.  “Drink water,” she said.  “It’ll clean out your insides.  Besides, don’t be putting on airs, you weren’t born drinking milk.”  Well, actually, I think I was born drinking milk, I thought—but I didn’t dare disagree.

But probably the absolutely worst idea that she had ever came up with to shave our expenses (and this is the absolute truth) was when she suggested that maybe we should try to supplement our hamburger meat rations with some of that dog food that came in cans.

“I saw a can of it the last time I was at the store,” she said breathlessly, “and it was very sheep, only twenty cents.  And it said it was almost one hundred por ciento meat,” she said knowingly.

“Mom, it’s horse meat with beef and chicken guts, plus a lot of other junk!”

“So?  When I was living in Mexico we ate horse meat and it didn’t kill us.”

“I’m not eating any horse meat, and I mean it, mom!”

“Oh you…you’re so spoiled! Ha! Mister Frankie doesn’t eat horses,” she said in a sing-song manner.

“No, and you can’t make me.”

“Bueno, vamos a ver.”  (We’ll see).

It was only a suggestion, she continued to assure me; and only if it tasted OK after she mixed it up in our sopa.

So the next afternoon she sent me off to Henry’s Store to buy, instead of a quarter pound of carne picada (hamburger), a can of dog food.  With strict orders not to divulge what it was going to be used for she pushed me out of the door and told me to hurry.

Well, that was quite the scene—me, trying to explain to Henry that, yes, I really did want to buy that can of dog food.

“But, you don’t have a dog, Frankie” he insisted impatiently.

“Um, no.  But we think we might get one soon, and my mom wants to make sure we have some food on hand for him in case we do…ah..get…you know,…one.”

“Who’s gonna give you a dog?”

“I don’t know.  But I think my mom knows somebody that has an extra one they don’t need.”

“That’s ridiculous.”

“No, really!  My mom said he’s a runty kind of dog, but he’ll need to eat all the same, but not much, so that’s why we only need one can right now.  Anyway, I need to get home.  Can I pay for this now?”

“OK, but I’m going to talk to your mom when I see her…and I better not hear that you lied to me.”

“OK.  Is it going to cost more than a quarter pound of carne picada?”

Lucky for me, after opening the can and daintily placing a smidgen on the end of her tongue, she smacked her lips, wrinkled her face, and announced that it was gritty and tasted like tin can.

Furrowing her brow, and in her best Spanglish, she mused, “Well, it might be OK if I mix it up con ajo and cebolla.  Pero, I don’t know if it’ll stick together in the pan.  What do you think, mijo?”

“Can I go outside?”

“No, not now.  You know, I don’t think this idea is going to work out after all, so I’ll have to put the top back on the can so you can return this to that tonto Henry.”

“I’m not going back there!  He already thinks I’m crazy!  And he’s not going to take back a can that’s already been opened!”

“Bueno, then you’ll have to eat your sopa with no meat, mister smarty pants.”

“I don’t care.  Can I go outside now?”

The Great Chicken Caper

A few days later, after returning home from school, I walked into the kitchen and noticed that my mom was in a really good mood.  She was whirling about the kitchen cooking away like crazy and singing some spicy little norteño ditty.  It was absolutely nuts.  Cutting to the chase, I asked her if she had found money that my dad may have lost.

“No,” she said, “much better.”

“What could be better than found money?”

“Mira, what do you smell?”

“I don’t know, but it smells good, whatever you’re cooking in that pot.”

“You bet, flaco (skinny)!  And it’s gonna taste so good too!”

“What is it?”

“Go look in the tub,” she said in a suddenly mysterious and sultry voice.

“The tub?  You mean the bath tub?”

“Sí, silly.  The tub!”

“MOM!  Why do I have to go look in the tub?”

“Well, if you don’t go see you’ll never know, now will you?”  My mom was philosophical like that.

I crept up to the bathroom door, wondering what I’d find, opened it and carefully looked inside.

As my eyes slowly adjusting to the semi-darkness of our bathroom, (there was no light receptacle so if we went at night we had to light a candle, but that’s another story), I began to see that the tub was smeared with what appeared to be blood—a lot of blood!  Edging closer, I saw (feathers?) and some stuff that looked a lot like the remains of that cat we’d dissected in biology class.  Yes, and there was a small beaked head with an eye staring directly at me!

“Mamá! There’s blood, guts, and a head in here!”  I screamed, retreating back into the kitchen.

“Chure!  It’s a shikin.”

“How did a chicken get in our tub?”

“Well,” she said beginning to absolutely beam with pride.  “Remember the dog food?  Well, that estupido Henry wouldn’t take it back, so I began to think how I could still use it.  Then it came to me!  I spooned some out, mixed it with a little arroz (rice), and put bits of it in a line out in the back yard.

“What!?”

“And then, just like magic the shikin just followed the dog food and arroz and, ‘POW’,” she yelled, smacking her fist into her open hand, “she just walked right into our house…eating.  It went right into the bathroom and I cut the head off!”

“MOM!  You what?  Where did the chicken come from?”

“Oh, you know…Señora Gutiérrez behind us has all those stupid shikins she keeps for the eggs she sells?  Well, one of them flew over the fence to eat my dog food and I caught it, and that’s what we’re having for dinner.  Is your mommy esmart or que?”

“MOM!  You can’t just steal her chickens!”

“Oye, (listen) you silly!  I didn’t esteel her shikin.  She must not be feeding them enough so it just flew into our house greedy for the arroz I put out.  It was hungry!  I can’t help that!  Besides, she charges too much for those lluevos anyway, so it serves her right.”

“MOM!!  It didn’t just fly in here.  You baited it.”

“I don’t know what that means you smarty mouth.  But if you want to eat you have to clean out the tub.  And, make sure you bury the head, feathers, and all the guts under the house so no one sees.  Now hurry, the shikin is almost done.”

And so, ended our experimentation with dog food.  I dread to think what might’ve happened if she’d actually liked the taste.  To this day, I can’t open a can of dog food without having that scene come rushing back into my mind.

Oh, and the shikin was very good indeed.

The Witch Doctor Pays Us A Visit

I would assume several months went by before she was finally able to save enough money to pay the commission for the witch doctor to cast a spell on my dad.  When that day finally came my mother swore me to secrecy and promised an eternity in Hell if I so much as breathed a word to anyone.  The woman would be coming on Saturday afternoon, since my dad would be out on a bender anyway, and I was ordered to stay out of sight and out of the way.

A soft knock on the wooden screen door interrupted the game I was playing with Jerry, and he curtly informed me that he would not be available until after the devil lady had left.

My mother came rushing out of the bedroom dressed to the nines, wearing makeup and sporting her only decent going out dress.  She shushed me away and pointed me back to the kitchen issuing me stern instructions to stay right there.

“And be quiet, mijo, I want this spell to work.  Now go!”

Lying on the cool linoleum floor in our tiny kitchen with my head peeking out toward the front door, I saw the witch doctor enter our house.  A strangely dressed dark skinned woman, she wasn’t old…just hard to place in years. She wore her hair, well, she really didn’t wear it any way. It just hung in tangled strands, black with silver streaks here and there and long jingling earrings hanging from her ear lobes. She smelled funny too, like old dust-covered up with cheap perfume. Putting down a large bulging cloth sack she had slung over her shoulder she took a seat in the center of our front room and listened intently while my mother informed her of my father’s many sins.

“I have”, the dark woman said, “just what you need. But…” turning slowly to pin me with her gaze, “…it will cost you ten dollars.”

Getting up from her chair my mother rushed into the kitchen where I was hiding.  Pulling me up by my shirt she thickly whispered, “Hijo, I don’t have enough money!  You have to go to your tia Janie and ask to borrow two dollars.”

“I don’t wanna go and ask for money,” I whined.

“You go, and you go NOW!”  She spit out through clenched teeth. “Don’t you want your father to stop drinking?  Because if you don’t go then he won’t stop and it will be all your fault!”

“Mom!!”

“GO!”

So, regretfully, off I went.

Carefully avoiding the real reason we needed two dollars I finally convinced my aunt that not only was the money for a good cause, my mother would return it by tomorrow.  Rolling her eyes she reached into her apron and fished out some change.  Counting out two dollars in quarters, dimes and nickels, she instructed me to have my mother call her later.  I promised to deliver the money and the message.

After pocketing the loot, the witch doctor began her ceremony. She dug into the sack took out some candles and arranged them in a semi-circle on the floor.  After she lit them, a lot of arm waving and hoarse chanting ensued.  She then asked to be shown where my father slept.

Since there was only one bed, (I slept on the floor then), she followed my mother to the corner of the room all the while mixing water and a green liquid from a small unmarked bottle into a small pot she had also retrieved from the sack. She asked for a mop, and once she got it she sloshed the liquid under the bed—careful to use the mop to spread it around evenly. The smell of menthol/mint was overwhelming and my eyes watered. To my mom it must’ve been the sweetest aroma she’d ever smelled; all the while thinking that her life was finally going to make a big turnaround. The curandera finally ended the ceremony by reciting some type of mumbo-jumbo in a language that sounded like Cajun and pig Latin. In a grand swoosh of skirts she headed for the door, leaving the empty pot by the bed.  My mom was absolutely beaming, looking up to heaven and holding both hands to her breast.  She should’ve known better.

Well, OK; so it didn’t work. After coming home on Sunday and sleeping off his hangover he asked my mom why the house smelled funny.

“I don’t smell anything,” she said defensively.  “Maybe it was one of your whores that left her stink on you.”

“Vieja loca.”

As if on cue my father went on a huge bender that next weekend and didn’t come home until Tuesday morning. After making several calls to my mother inquiring about my father’s whereabouts on Monday, one of the Younger brothers’ sons went to my uncle Frank and told him they planned to fire my dad on Tuesday morning.  Walking the long walk from his paint shop to the main office that afternoon, Frank interceded with the elder Youngers and saved my father’s job.

Later that week Frank walked into the mechanic’s shop and pulled my father aside.  With his mouth almost in his ear he whispered in a low growling voice that this would be the very last time that he would ever intervene to save his little brother’s hide.

Time to shape up.

Stress 3…and the beginning of the end.

Stress 3

 

So here I was, a young man of seventeen years with less than two months left in high school, sitting on a crowded city bus heading home and shaking like a leaf.  When I had boarded the orange and white Rapid Transit city bus on the corner of Griggs Road and Calhoun Road, it had been mostly empty.  Dropping two dimes into the coin receiver I asked the driver for a transfer ticket.  He ripped a faded pink paper ticket from a thick pad, handed it to me, and motioned me to find a seat somewhere.

Holding on to the overhead rail I saw that I had my choice of just about any seat on either side of the bus.  With the hot sun hanging low in the sky and the humidity clinging to my skin like a sticky, damp, sheet, I quickly decided that a window seat would be my best bet.

Finding one about four rows back I hopped onto the seat and slid across the cheap faded green plastic upholstery.  I forced the window open and felt the heavy breeze generated by the jerky forward motion of the old bus warmly kissing my clammy face and smoothly gliding down my neck hurrying the beads of sweat already slowly rolling down my chest.

Looking around to make sure there were no passengers too close to me I reached into my right pants pocket to worry the already damp bill nestled safely at the bottom.  Easing my hand out and glancing downward I reassured myself that I was in fact the true owner of a genuine one hundred dollar bill.  The dull empty vacuum in my stomach lurched a bit and sent a stress chill up my spine.

Easing it back into my pocket and closing my eyes, my anxious mind began to form the narrative that I would have to have memorized by the time I got home.  I knew that whatever I chose to tell her, short of the truth, would be picked apart and scrutinized down to the most insignificant detail.  My mother was like that.  What she may have lacked in formal education and common sense she more than made up with an uncanny sense of intuitive clairvoyance.  Sherlock Holmes had absolutely nothing on her.

 

Hooky Day

 

As an example of my mother’s physic skills I’ll relate a little adventure I had as a young teen. While attending MacArthur Junior High, my best friend Robert talked me into skipping school; something that I had never done, or even considered doing, before.  That fateful morning, while waiting for the bus to pick us up, one of Robert’s thug friends came roaring up in a sporty black Ford coupe.  Robert walked over to the passenger side and ducked his head into the open window.  After chatting for a minute or so he motioned me over.  I scanned the street to make sure our bus was still not in sight, and not seeing it, trotted over.

The Ford driver’s name was Joe Garcia, a local punk who had dropped out of school the previous year because it was apparently interrupting his ongoing training as an aspiring criminal.  A few years later he would be shot six times in the back by the owner of a laundromat he and Robert were burglarizing.

Joe’s  long black greasy hair was sculpted up and back into a perfect ducktail, and he was decked out in the fully sanctioned Hispanic thug (pachuco) uniform of the day: oversized pleated khaki pants, highly polished Stacy Adams dress shoes, and a white Tshirt worn under a plaid long sleeve shirt buttoned only at the collar.  He turned his half lidded gaze towards me and hissed, “Hola, ese.”  That, of course, was the approved all around pachuco greeting of the day.

“Ese vato,” (back at you dude) I coolly responded while tipping my head slightly back in the approved pachuco fashion.

Robert put his hand on the back of my neck and said, “Let’s play hooky, vato.”

“Hooky?” I asked, my eyes slightly bulging and my tone suddenly very squeaky and uncool.

“Sí, vato, Nobody will know.” This, in a pre-hip hop, singsong, vocal manner.

“Yes,” I responded defensively, “but when they take attendance and you’re absent don’t they call home?”

“Naw, they just say that to scare you.”  Robert said, pinning me with his glare.  “They never call.  You coming, ese?”

Feeling a tiny wave of fear building in the pit of my stomach, I stiffened and shot a glance at Joe.  He didn’t look all too thrilled to suddenly find himself in the company of a squirming wimp; especially one who counted on Robert as his friend and protector.

“Sure, vato.” I finally said—a little too loud and half an octave too shrill.  Before I knew it I was in the backseat feeling the Ford’s rear wheels spin out, with the sudden forward momentum pinning me firmly in place.  Worse, all of a sudden I really needed to pee.

The day started by doing absolutely nothing.  We drove aimlessly around with Robert and Joe casing out likely burglary targets and assessing the perceived take.   After a much-needed stop at a gas station, where I gratefully relieved myself, we just drove around some more with the radio blaring the latest hits by the Diamonds, the Everly Brothers, and a bunch of other cool hipsters.  Finally, Joe said he knew where there were some basketball courts and we should go there to shoot baskets.

“You got a ball?” I asked.

“No, vato,” Joe casually responded, “but I know we can steal one from that store on Fulton Avenue.”

“Cool,” Robert added.

Not looking to add shoplifting, or if things got dicey, armed robbery, to my presently short, but growing, list of legal infractions I quickly and thoughtfully suggested: “Why don’t we go to the courts and see if anyone’s already there?  Maybe there’ll be someone there with a ball.”

“Cool,” Robert agreed.

Joe, being a little more daring said, “And if they don’t want to let us borrow their ball we can kick their ass and just take it, ese.”

Great.  Assault and battery would also look good on my rap sheet.

We cruised some more, mostly in circles, all the while checking out old winos half passed out on the sidewalk, pregnant women on their way to or from the laundromat or market, and noting the absolute lack of any good looking chicks.  Well, duh!  They were all in school…ese.

Located in the back of an old church in a decidedly black neighborhood we finally pulled up to the courts.  There were about a dozen black guys shooting baskets on the four half backboards.  Small gauge chains hung from under the rims instead of silk cord netting, and when a shot whistled through the rim the ball would make a clinking sound instead of the smooth “swish” that I was used to.

At first it didn’t occur to me to wonder why on a week day at eight o’clock in the morning there would be a dozen, or so, black men in jeans and wife beaters shooting baskets.  But it didn’t take me long to pounce on the reality that those guys weren’t your basic friendly family types.

As we approached the sidewalk bordering the courts, head after head began to turn our way.  In a few seconds basketball activity had all but ceased and the large group of men stood quietly eyeing us suspiciously.

“What’s up, homies!” Robert called out cheerfully.

Walking a couple of steps behind him and Joe I noticed that all of a sudden they both had developed a certain hitch and sway to their stride.  Assuming that this was how you were supposed walk when approaching a large group of hostile black males I did my best to imitate their homey walking style.  Sadly, all I accomplished was attracting the attention of the entire scowling group, who were probably wondering why the two cool dudes had brought along a victim of polio to play basketball.

Robert, being the lead in this misadventure, made a beeline towards the biggest guy and extended his right hand.  What followed was a lightning fast series of hand slaps, slips, and rubs—all the while Robert and the big black guy glowering at each other.  When the hand ceremony ended they both broke into huge smiles and patted each other on the back.  The pressure was off, or so I thought.

Everyone started lining up with Joe following up and doing the hand jive with the first big guy while Robert had moved on to number two.  I thought about maybe rolling my eyes into my head, falling backwards and faking a fainting spell to avoid performing a gang ritual that was completely unknown to me, but before I could summon up my acting skills the big guy was on me.  Smiling splendidly he quickly extended a beefy multi-tattooed hand and I froze.

Staring at his hand I was fascinated to see that even though the top of his hand was black, his palm was chalky white.  Right then, what I really wanted to do was ask him why his hand was two-toned…and was that normal…and if every black person’s hand was like his—but coming to my senses the survivalist in me said that this probably wasn’t the opportune time to engage him in a discussion concerning Negroid skin pigmentation.  Instead, I stupidly reached out my right hand.

Quicker than I could think he grabbed my hand, shook it violently, let it go, and commenced to do a very wicked hand jive.  I countered with a rapid series of my very finest “wax on-wax off” hand moves, and even thought about finishing up with a little bugaloo foot flourish and hip sway, but fortunately, and at the last minute, I abandoned that idea.

While I continued making my cool hand moves (that, by the way, were later successfully brought to the big screen by Mr. Myagi), Big Black said, “You a funny mutha-fucker, ain’t ya?”  I noticed he’d pulled back his hand and stopped smiling.

“Who me?”  I froze in mid right wax.

“Yea, you homes!  Hey,” he yelled over his shoulder while pulling back his hand.  “Look at this crazy skinny mutha-fuka.  He doin’ some karate or some shit!”

I pleadingly looked at Robert and Joe, mentally beseeching them to let’s get the fuck out of here—fast!  But instead I saw them turn and walk back toward me.

Stepping around my large black, and really unhappy, hand jive partner, Robert and Joe took up positions on either side of me.

“Yeah,” Robert said.  “well, he’s our little brother but he really don’t know shit.”

For what seemed to be an eternity time stood still.  Absolutely no one moved, and all I could see was many black sweaty faces, each with a pair of very menacing eyes—all focused on me.

Suddenly Mr. Black let out a loud whoop and started hysterically laughing.  Moving so fast that even Robert was taken by surprise, the big guy had suddenly reached and and grabbed me by the nape of the neck!

Instead of squeezing the very life out of me he instead pulled me close to him and yelled to everyone, “Crazy mutha-fuka, he’s sumpin’ else.  Come on, let’s play some round ball!”

Suddenly the air was filled with the hollow sound of bouncing basketballs on concrete and the hiss of stealthy floating basketball moves.  Robert and Joe relaxed and strolled over to catch an errant ball bouncing towards them.  In a few minutes everyone had chosen up sides and the game was on.

It ended up being a full five on five full court game, with me, after have been picked last, ending up on the all black team.  Thinking that I would probably be crushed out of existence on the first pick and roll play I begged off, claiming that an old non-existent gang injury was acting up, and limped over to sit by the fence and watch the b-ball aerobatics.  This went on for the next two hours.

My memory of the rest of the day is a blur because after the games were over we just rode around, parking and talking; riding around, parking and napping; riding around and parking some more.  On my insistence we did drive to the old Houston Hobby airport to watch the airplanes take off and land until it was time for school to let out.

Facing The Music

The plan was to have me dropped off at the bus stop at the exact time the bus arrived so I could be seen walking home with the rest of the kids in the neighborhood.  That way there would be no question that I had spent the day at school. Or so I thought.

Walking the three blocks from the bus stop to my house I mentally reviewed all the contingency stories that I would use; all depending on my mother’s mood, of course.  I tried to remember how I normally greeted her on a normal “just getting home from school” day, and so as I turned down my street I thought I had it down pat.

Stepping onto the porch as I started to reach for the front screen door, it was suddenly pushed violently open from the inside.  Looking up I saw my mother, her right hand on the door and her left hand on the doorframe.  She looked totally pissed.

“Oh, hi mom.”  I said, in the most normal voice and tone I could muster.

“Well, Pancho!  Where have you been?!”  That in itself, was a really bad sign.  “Pancho” was used when she was beyond angry; and I would’ve loved to have heard her address me as “Frankie” instead.

“Uh, school, why?  Did somebody call?”  (Attendance office has done me in, I thought).

“Come in here, now—and, no, nobody called.  Looking at me intently.  “Why are you asking?”

“Me? Oh, no reason.  Just wondering…” I faded off.

“OK mister! Put your books down and tell me what’s going on.  Your face tells me you did something wrong.  What was it?”

“Wrong?  What wrong?”  I was starting to whine and I suddenly had to pee again.

She walked me into the kitchen by pulling me by my shirt, sat me down and took her seat across the table from me.  Then she just stared.

I knew she was doing: Dr. Spock later made this technique famous—it was the DeLeón mind meld, but my mother didn’t have to touch my head.  Her penetrating psychic eye was now seeing me in that Ford automobile with Robert and Joe, hand jiving with Mr. Black, and later watching the Eastern Air Lines DC-7 noisily lift into the sky.  She knew it all.  Oh, crap!

“Mom, why are you mad at me?”  I tried one last tack.

“Because I know you did something wrong today, like maybe play hooky!”

That did it!  Dam Break!!

Tears literally flew out of my eyes and the guilt that I had been suppressing all day long bubbled up into one big sob.

“I’m sorry, mom!  I didn’t mean to do it, I’m so sorry, and I’ll never do it again.”  I gurgled.  “Who told you?”

“No one told me, Pancho, I just knew.”  She softly said. “And, because you told me the truth right away I’m not going to spank you.  But you do have to do the dishes after supper and clean the bathroom every Saturday for the rest of the month.”

“O-O-OK.”  I sniffled out.

So, for many years I have wondered how she ever knew what I did that day.  When report cards came out at the end of that semester I showed perfect attendance; meaning that somehow I had not been counted absent that day.  So it was then that I knew for sure that no one had called her from the school attendance office to report me truant.

My mom—she was spooky. 

 

The Asian Connection

 

Ten minutes from home on the third bus I had transferred to for the long trip home from my uncle’s paint shop to my house in El Crisol, my stress and anxiety was at its highest level.   Having never really learned my lesson on how well my mother could read me I was still mentally rehearsing what I was going to say to her about the money I had received.

Although she knew that my uncle usually gave me five or ten dollars whenever I went to visit my dad at work, having a hundred dollar gift was probably way out of her guessing range.  Whenever I come home from visiting my dad and uncle she would immediately ask to see how much money I may have gotten.  Whatever the amount was, she always took it from me to use for “house expenses”, (food), and would make it up to me by giving me fifty cents to spend anyway I wanted to.

I never told my uncle about this because I just didn’t know how he would react.  Would he confront my parents and demand that they reimburse me?  Would he stop giving me monetary gifts?  I just didn’t know.  So, I kept it to myself.

When I was a little kid I really never minded this too much because I really had no feel for money.  Fifty cents was something I understood because it would let me buy a few RC Colas and Moon Pies for a whole week at Henry’s Store.  But a five or ten dollar bill just didn’t generate that kind of culinary excitement.  For some reason as a kid it just never dawned on me how many goodies that kind of money could buy.

Now the bus’s squeaky air brakes yanked me back into reality.  My stop was coming up and I was within minutes of facing the mother of all inquisitions (no pun intended).  Getting off of the now crowded bus, and still squeezing the hundred-dollar bill in my right pants pocket, I stepped into the hot dusty Houston afternoon.  Pulling noisily away, the bus’s black diesel smoke pouring from the exhaust pipe cloaked me in a thick choking cloud.  Turning and quickly walking away, I put my head down holding my breath until I was clear.  Looking up I saw that I was within twenty, or so, feet from the front of Kings Supermarket.

The store had been there, on Liberty Road, for as long as I could remember.  It was owned by a Chinese family, whom everyone assumed was named “King”; but no one ever knew for sure, as they didn’t live in the neighborhood.  In fact, no one knew where they lived or where their kids went to school.  I know that I never knew of any student named King that attended any of the schools in our district.

We never did any of our grocery shopping there either, and I didn’t know anyone in our neighborhood that had. The word on our street was that the prices at Kings Supermarket were inflated, meats, fish, and vegetables not very fresh, and the service rude and indifferent.  Most, if not all, of our neighbors did all their grocery shopping at Henry’s Store.

A few blocks east there was a neighborhood where mostly black families lived so we assumed they did their shopping at Kings since we never saw them at Henry’s.  Kings certainly wasn’t hurting for business because not only had it been there for years, the storefront was always gaily painted and the building in pretty good repair.  That’s more that I could say for Henry’s; his store was old, any paint the wood had ever received had long ago chipped off, and the coolers and such were archaic.

A quick idea popped into my head and I made a beeline for the front door.  Inside, the store was cool and a bit dark.  Signs hung from the ceiling announcing the latest price on whatever happened to be on sale that day.  The whole store smelled like a vegetable garden with a hint of slightly off fish.  Seeing the large checkout counter I headed towards it while pulling out the bill from my pocket.

An oval faced middle-aged woman, with black hair streaked with gray, fixed her stare on me immediately.  I cautiously approached and put on my best smile.

“Hi,” I said cheerfully.

“What you want?”

“Oh, uh, could I have some change?”

“You want change?  For what?”  She said, lowering her head and really fixing me in her sights.

“Uh, just for a hundred.”

If I had pulled out a bazooka from my pants pocket and pointed at her little round face her reaction could not have been any worse.

“YOU!!  YOU WANT HUNDED DOLLA CHANGE?”

“Yes.”

“WHAT YOU MEAN?  YOU HAVE A HUNDED DOLLA?”

“Yes I do—see?”  Bad move.

She started speaking in what was apparently Chinese, but never having heard Chinese spoken before I thought she was having some kind of attack and had lost control of her vocal abilities.  Waving her hands and yelling at the top of her lungs she soon attracted the attention of the entire King clan on duty.

Little Chinese people suddenly appeared from every direction, some wearing bloody aprons and carrying shiny meat cleavers, and others in dark gray work clothes—all jabbering in that unintelligible language at her, each other, and me.  I was horrified.

Finally, when I thought I was going to be sliced and diced, through the throng appeared a tall dark haired middle-aged man wearing a white shirt with dark slacks.  He made some arm gestures and said a couple of very loud Chinese type words.  Everyone immediately shut up.

He looked down at me as I stood there in my sweaty shirt, my skinny hand halfway in the air waving a hundred dollar bill.

“OK,” He said, in perfect English.  “What is the problem here?”

“I just asked if I could get change for this bill, that’s all.”  I said meekly.

“Hmm.  Where did you get that?” He asked, squinting a bit.

“My uncle Frank gave it to me.”

“Uncle Frank?”  He mused as he ran a set of finely manicured fingers through his black hair.

“Yes.”

“Look, I know you live around here because I’ve seen you getting off the bus, but I also know that you should not be waving that kind of money around.  Where did you really get it?”

“Really!” I insisted.  “I got it for my graduation expenses from my Uncle Frank.”

“Alright.” He said calmly.  “My mother was thinking you’d somehow taken it from the register, but we don’t keep bills like that here…only tens and twenties.  So, you need to leave now with that money and go home.  Or, at least go somewhere away from our store.”

With the King clan burning holes in my back, I headed for the door.

 

Facing The Music – Redux

 

Of course my plan had been to break the bill into smaller denominations and tell my mother that my uncle had given me a smaller amount, like say, two twenties. I would give up the money gladly, receiving maybe two or three dollars back, knowing that deep in my pocket I still had a lot more.  So much for that plan.

Entering the house I heard my mother in the kitchen cooking and singing along with some Mexican song playing on the radio.  I shuffled in, pulled up a chair from our table and sat heavily down.

“Well?” She said smiling broadly.  “What did uncle have for us?”

“Us?”

“Shure.”  She said sweetly.  “I can smell a lot of money and my palm has really been itching!  So, tell your mommy how much we got.”

Knowing I was defeated and with no way out, I dejectedly pulled out the wrinkled bill and put it on the table.

“Here it is.”  I groaned

In a flash she had moved from the stove where she had been stirring some watery soup and had snatched up the bill.  Carefully unfolding it her eyes began to bulge and a large smile spread across her face as she realized what it was she was holding in her hand.

Turning toward me, her mood instantly changed.  Scooting her chair right next to me she darkly said,

“Don’t your ever tell your dad anything about this—you hear me?”

“Yes, but can I use some of the money for my graduation?”  I need to pay the balance for my ring, and I need to rent a cap and gown.”

Clutching the bill in her fist she sat back and went into deep thought.

“Well, if you did all of that, then your father would know something was up.  We can’t have him thinking you got this much money.”  She said, looking up to the ceiling.  “But what you can do is pay the twenty five dollars for the ring and tell him that’s all you got.”

“But what about the cap and gown?”  I asked, pleadingly.

“We decided that you didn’t need that because you’re not going to the graduation.  So no cap and gown.” She flatly said.

“But mom, that’s not fair!  I have more than enough there to get those, plus even pay for a taxi to take me and bring me back from the Coliseum.”  I whined.

“No Sir!”  She stated, slamming her hand on the table.  “No Coliseum, no taxi!  No Sir!  If he were to know what you were planning, your dad would end up taking the money and using it to buy some stupid gift for the church or the pastor.  Worse, he’d probably buy them dinner at some fancy restaurant that even I’ve never been to.  NO SIR!”

“But mom….”

“NO!”  And with that she stood up, tucked the bill into the pocket of her apron and went back to the stove.

“I’ll give you the twenty five dollars as soon as I get this bill broken up.” She said, not looking at me.  “And, not a word to anyone…and, I mean no one! You hear me?”

And so it was.

Escape

 

On a Friday in June of 1960, the graduating class of Jefferson Davis Senior High School individually marched up to the stage at the Sam Houston Coliseum one humid evening, and amid the cheers of family and friends, approached Mr. John Paul Rogers, to receive their high school diploma.  Afterwards, various private parties and a dance at a Latin-American club were held to commemorate the occasion.

At the same time I was playing my guitar in the Iglesia Samaria church band accompanying the sweating, swaying congregation while they joyfully sang some long forgotten hymn.

I was not missed at any of the graduation festivities by any of my classmates, and I never heard from any one of them until many decades later.

*****

Two weeks later the mailman delivered an official looking manila envelope, addressed to me, to my house.  My mother opened it, took out the document that attested to my successful completion of high school in the state of Texas, and put it on the kitchen table for me to find when I got home from my job at Texas State Optical.

Six months later I boarded a Continental Trailways bus destined for San Antonio, Texas.  Upon arrival, a blue United States Air Force bus transported me, along with twenty-nine other lonely young men, to the basic training barracks at Lackland Air Force Base.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In The Beginning…

Foreword

When I decided to write this piece my intent was to center it around my early experience with religion and the mark that it’s left on my personality and my general outlook on life. But as I began to write I found that by dredging up old memories about this subject, other memories/issues, both pleasant and unpleasant, also began to surface. Try as I might I could not separate one from the other, and consequently the original subject theme began to go in a direction that I had not anticipated nor originally planned. Long forgotten episodes involving my parents and their slow hellish descent into religious fundamentalism came rushing to the surface and almost all but gushed onto the printed page. I kept trying to refocus my writing on the original theme, but the more I thought about how to go about it the more appropriate the wayward passages seemed. So I kept writing and writing.

For me it has been and continues to be a very painful journey.  But, it is my history and I need to tell it as I remember it happening.

 

In The Beginning…

I

For many, many, years I have struggled with the concept of religion. One of my early memories is that of my attending a Catholic church in Houston, Nuestra Senora De Dolores (Our Lady of Sorrows), with my mother, and being slightly frightened by the spookiness of the statues placed on and around the altar. The pleading eyes, cast skyward, and the upturned palms forever frozen in a pathetically submissive pose gave me the frozen willies. We weren’t Catholic by any means, actually we weren’t anything religious-wise, but with the cards that life had dealt my mother, any help imagined or real, was certainly welcome. And for her, the church seemed like a good way out of her personal marital misery.

The main difficulty in my mom’s life was my father. He was most certainly what I would describe as an undiagnosed alcoholic; and like most alcoholics he never admitted to the fact that when he drank he didn’t stop until he passed out or he ran out of money. For all his faults he was an extremely talented man. Blessed with an eye for detail and possessing an uncompromising, but sharply analytical mind, he earned a good salary by repairing and painting cars. Because he was able to restore wrecks to an almost showroom like appearance he was in high demand in the auto repair world and was paid accordingly.

His best job ever was at a Ford dealership in Houston where he ran the body shop for a couple of years. I was too young to remember him working there, but my mother would often tell me about the good times…before the drinking started.

What I do remember is seeing my mom waiting inside by the front door on Fridays, waiting for my dad to bring home the paycheck. That usually never happened. More often than not she would wait and wait, telling me that as soon as dad comes home we’ll go to the grocery store and buy a lot of groceries.  Late afternoon would slide into dusk, then night. And in the dim light of our two worn out shade-less lamps, with my mother’s soft sobs softly lulling me, I would drift off to sleep on her lap.

Usually showing up early Sunday morning, hung over, bruised from fighting, and completely broke, his never ending excuse was that, ‘his feet went out from under him’, or that ‘he gave in to his weak side’. Whatever. It all added up to yet another week of trying to figure out what we would eat, and my mother mending my pants and shirts for school.

Although he very rarely missed work because of the drinking he most likely gained a reputation as a not so reliable family man. I’m sure he had all good intentions during the week, and worked very hard, but as soon as that pay envelope hit his pocket on Friday his feet would start their inevitable slide. Much later in life he found religion (or rather, it found him) and he became a dyed-in-the-wool Pentecostal fundamentalist with all the trimmings—well, short of snake handling.

Because of his appetite for alcohol (whiskey please, make it Four Roses, no beer) he never made much of his life work-wise. It wasn’t that he didn’t have talent. He had plenty. Early on he discovered that he had a knack for fixing things. If it was broken, given enough time, he could fix it. Good eye for color and, despite the drinking, a steady hand. These abilities would serve him well as an auto and diesel engine mechanic, paint and body auto repairman, furniture refinisher and an amateur inventor.

But what he possessed in raw talent would ultimately be grossly overshadowed by his lack of self-discipline in his personal life. He seemed to react negatively to anyone in authority, all of our relatives (his and my mom’s), all minorities, and most Christians, and to this end he had a name for everyone. I never had to leave my house to hear words like kikes, niggers, burr-heads and wops. There weren’t many Asians around but those who happened to cross his path merited being called chinks and slopes.  Mexicans were wet-backs and greasers; and because I heard these insults on a daily basis for as long as I could remember, they had little effect on me—except for the insults to Mexicans. My mom was born of Mexican parents.

He was born in Saltillo, Mexico, in 1914, of Spanish/French descendants.  His parents had tried to emigrate to the U.S. from France in late 1913, arriving by ship in Brownsville, TX.  After determining that the family’s paperwork was not acceptable the U.S. Immigration Service refused to allow them into the country and unceremoniously ordered them back aboard the ship.

Since the ship’s next port of call was Tampico the captain graciously allowed them to remain aboard until they docked there a few days later.  He had suggested they try to enter Mexico there since the country’s immigration service was less picky with paperwork—especially when sweetened with a little bribe. As luck, and a little spare change, would have it they were immediately admitted and quickly found themselves on the right continent, just the wrong country.

The young couple was already burdened with four small boys and an infant girl, but stubbornly decided to use their remaining cash reserves to travel north to attempt re-entry into the U.S.  They got as far as Saltillo, where they found out that they would soon be welcoming a new child into their already large family.  With money running perilously low they found a cheap rental and temporarily settled in to look for work.

On August 22, 1914, my father was born in a dirt floored adobe shanty and was named Roberto Francisco Alberto DeLeón.  Throughout the pregnancy the couple’s dreams of living in America never dimmed and with dogged determination the entire family, except for little Dolores, had worked any and all odd jobs that had come along.  Three weeks after his birth, my father, carried on his mother’s back crossed the border at Nuevo Laredo, Texas.    Two weeks later, freshly designated as Resident Aliens and sporting brand new green ID cards, the family finally arrived at their original destination: Houston, Texas.

Since my father never talked about his family I really never knew much about them.  One day when I was about fourteen I did run across some old pictures of them while rummaging through some old boxes in a closet.  Among them was a most evocative photo of a stately looking couple that was probably taken to commemorate some milestone such as an anniversary, or possibly a birthday.  The photo is undated but their clothing and demeanor suggest it may have been taken sometime between 1910 and 1920.

I took the photo to my mom and asked her who these people were.

“Well, they’re your dad’s parents.”  She said smugly.

“Really?”  I looked closer at the slightly curled photograph.

My grandfather, sporting a healthy handlebar moustache and a healthier waistline, was dressed in a vested suit, military style boots, and was wearing a natty pocket watch and gold chain.  His wife, modestly plump with a lace type hat, was dressed in a long gown-like floor-length silk dress trimmed with dainty lace on the hem, and tightly buttoned all the way to her neck.  They both appeared to be in their late forties or early fifties, and while angled towards each other and scowling unpleasantly at the camera, still managed to project a sense of highborn sophistication and well-being.  They certainly don’t look like peasants.

It seems that my father, once having reached the seventh grade in school, probably decided that his time would be better spent if he were working full time.  Having already shown the ability to fix broken down car engines he dropped out of school and began to do odd jobs around the neighborhood.  Word of mouth quickly spread and soon he was in great demand as a reliable shade tree mechanic and was knocking down some pretty good money.  Since he was already addicted to Camel cigarettes, liked to party, and was starting to really like whiskey, the money he earned seemed to quickly disappear–thus necessitating the need to work harder and earn more.

During this particular period of time I don’t know what my uncles and aunt were doing.  Anytime I would ask my father he would just dismiss the question with a wave of his hand and say, “You know, just knocking about.”  Uh, OK.  The only episode he ever shared with me that involved one of his siblings was when he told me about the serious injury he had suffered at the hands of his sister, Dolores.

As the story went, he and Dolores, in their mid-teens, had been home alone while the rest of the family was out earning a living.  Entering their kitchen he saw Dolores playing with a large kitchen knife apparently sword-fighting with some invisible opponent.  Being a good and concerned brother he told her to put the knife away before she hurt herself.  Her response was less than civil, pretty much telling him to piss off.  Insisting that she either put the knife away or give it to him for safe keeping she got annoyed and told him to try to take it from her.  So he did.

Quickly reaching for and grabbing the knife, he yanked it back toward himself.  Before he had time to think he saw blood literally gush from his hand and he felt a deep cold sensation shoot up his hand and wrist.  His anger at his sister’s challenge to his machismo had caused him to ignore the fact that she was holding the knife by its handle and he, in his haste, had grabbed the blade.  The result was that the knife’s blade had all but severed his right index finger at the second joint.  His other three fingers had also been cut but not to the same extent.  Not having the money to go to a hospital or even see a doctor, he and his sister wrapped the wound with dishtowels and a hastily torn pillowcase and waited for the rest of the family to return.

The cut was never stitched up and took weeks to finally heal.  As a result of the severe laceration, tendons, and probably a few nerves, were severed causing complete loss of feeling in the finger and leaving him with the inability to bend the finger at will towards his palm.  The finger was always at attention and when a fist was required he would have to use his thumb to grab it and hold it securely against the palm.  The injury ended up classifying him as 4F, and kept him out of World War II.

Given the time in which he was born, and living in Houston in the years after World War I, and through the Great Depression, I assume the young Robert would have been exposed to quite a bit of ethnic and racial intolerance left over from years of slavery.  But because he was tri-lingual (English, Spanish, and French), he would have had to associate with many multi-cultured people of diverse backgrounds and differing lifestyles.  But if these relationships ended up affecting this tall, thin, wickedly handsome young man in some negative manner I’ll never know.  What I do know is that in 1939, at age twenty-five, year he met and married my mom: a beautiful dark skinned Mexican-American beauty named Avelina Gómez.  She, and her twin brother Marcos, were born in 1918 in San Antonio, Texas, making them not only Texans but bonafide U.S. citizens.

They had met because Avelina’s older sister, Juanita, had been dating a close friend of my father’s.  How he had overcome his extreme bias towards Mexicans to begin dating my mother is still a mystery to me.  I can only assume that her dark and sultry beauty, coupled with her goofy sense of humor, made my father look past her ethnicity.

Because of her family’s extreme poverty, she, her brother, and all of the sisters would often be taken out of school to travel to South Texas, and even Mexico, in search of transient jobs in order to bring in money for the family.  As a result her education went as far as the third grade when the family finally decided that her reading and writing ability had reached a good enough level for her to manage the simple tasks that her menial labor jobs required.

Her command of the English and Spanish vocabulary was passable, but she would forever suffer from the inability to speak, read, or write effectively in either language.  As a result she developed a loopy habit of totally mispronouncing and/or creatively substituting made up words or phrases for ones she wasn’t familiar with.  Consequently, I grew up thinking that a sandwich was “un samwish”,   a chair became “una share”, any pasta was referred to as “la sopa” (actually sopa means soup), and a ditch was verbalized as “un deeche” (dee-che).  Spanglish became the official language around the house and unless I was at school spoke it constantly.

My father, even after being married to her for over thirty years, would still—upon hearing mom massacre some English or Spanish word—turn and stare wide-eyed shaking his head simply mumbling under his breath, “Vieja loca.”

II

Younger Brothers, Desperados?

In Texas folklore there exists a group of highwaymen known as the Younger Brothers.  A gang of rustlers, train and bank robbers, and murderers in the 1800’s, they occasionally partnered in crime with the more famous James gang who were finally brought to justice by stubbornly persistent Pinkerton lawmen, and the citizens of Northfield, Minnesota.

According to my father the Younger’s descendants, had settled in southwest Texas, and sometime after the Depression founded a trucking company specializing in hauling oil and gasoline for wholesalers in Texas and Louisiana.  Whether or not these were the actual descendants remains a mystery to me.  But according to my father they had to be at least related because of the smooth way they were able to finagle outrageous profits while at the same time cheating their employees out of an honest wage.  They must’ve learned it somewhere!

Formed in Houston in the early 1930’s, the modern day Youngers successfully built the business, and by the 1940’s owned a city block of oily pothole filled land on Griggs Road.  Every day big rigs pulling long tubular trailers would rumble onto the huge truck lot to be cleaned, repaired, repainted and refilled; while their drivers ambled over to the main office to check in, draw their pay, and receive their new loads and destinations.

On the Younger’s truck lot, and right off the street were some small buildings that served as administrative offices, and about two-thirds back, and to the right, were three large open door tin buildings.  Two were designated as “Mechanics” and “Tires”, and the third, quite a bit larger was the “Paint” shop.  My uncle Frank worked in that building until he retired and left the shop for my father to work, and went to California—never to be heard from again.

The “Mechanics” shop was where all the repairs to the giant diesel engines that pulled the enormous loads of gas, oil, and pipes went when they needed to get well.  Both it, and the “Tires” buildings were run by a mean spirited, red haired, fifty something bigot everyone called “Red”. Among the subordinates working for him was an unfortunate crew of black laborers whose responsibility was to repair tires, change oil in the diesel engines, and perform probably the most dangerous job on the lots, steam clean out the large oil and gasoline tanks the diesel trucks towed from the oil refineries to the various distribution centers.

Red made sure he fed those boys their daily ration of indignities with foul-mouthed calls of “come on nigger”, “shit burr-head”, “move, you jive ass darky”, “over here you monkey ass shine”.  Their response was always the same: a quick ducking of the head, as if dodging an invisible flying fist, a flash of white eyeball with a fast white toothy grin, and a flick of the wrist to wipe away the dripping beads of sweat off the forehead.

“Yowsa boss, you got dat right…,” was their usual response

The rhythmic metallic pounding of a huge sledgehammer on a stubborn tire bead weather welded to a rusty rim would rise just a degree or two in cadence after that.

Shooting a vile glance in the direction of the object of his scorn Red would flip his head sideways and shoot a brownish green jet of tobacco spittle onto the oily ground.  Wiping his mouth with the back of his tattooed hand he’d end the tirade with his signature rant: “Fukin’ lazy-assed niggers, anyway!”

In addition to the blacks, there was a pair of young white men who everyone believed were brothers, and who did the actual diesel engine repair.  In the many trips that I made to that shop over the years I never heard either of them say one word—to anyone, or to each other. They appeared to be in their early twenties, bald and heavily muscled, and would spend their workday quietly turning bolts, pulling engines, scooting under trucks wielding huge wrenches, all the while whistling some unrecognizable melody.  I once asked my father what their names were and he said everyone called them, “the mutes.”

Occasionally Red would have to address them in reference to some newly arrived broken down diesel.

“Yo!”

They would slowly stop what they were doing and turn their attention to Red.

“Got a fukin’ Wentworth put a rod through the pan and need to get it done and out quick!  Git’r done now and finish that there later.”

Wordlessly they’d stop ratcheting or gauging, and walk over to the kerosene filled tub in the center of the shop.  After dropping the tools into the tub to soak off the grease they’d stand quietly, huge bare arms crossed over their mammoth chests, staring at Red and waiting for the broken truck to be towed into the shop.

Having dispensed his orders, Red would quickly leave their immediate area mumbling under his breath about those “fuckin’ mutes”.  Glancing back and making sure he was a safe distance he’d flash a nervous semi-toothless tobacco juice stained grin to whomever he thought was listening. The brothers would continue to stare, shooting a fierce blue-green eyed glare in Red’s direction until their new broken down charge was towed into their bay.

When not berating his minions Red spent his time sitting on an ancient folding chair chewing tobacco, spitting on the floor and sipping cheap whiskey from an old fruit jar carefully stowed in his grease stained tool box.  Drivers waiting for their trucks to be serviced would stroll in to the shop to see how the work was progressing and linger long enough to get a little taste of that “hair of the dog” from Red.

Further back on the lot was the much larger tin building that housed the paint and body shop.  A talented auto painter and body repairman, my uncle Frank had worked for Younger Brothers Trucking almost since its founding.  He had no one working for him and did all the work himself.  And no one, except for my father and the Youngers themselves, was ever allowed into the shop during working hours.  Even when I went to visit he always met me at the entrance and would usher me to one of a pair of wooden folding chairs placed just inside the entrance to the shop.

When he wasn’t wearing his white painter’s coveralls, hat, white military-like boots and a large facemask and goggles, he could always be found in neatly pressed khaki pants and a dark brown gabardine shirt.  And while the diesel repair shop was filthy, engine parts and tools spread around the floor willy-nilly, and the whole place smelling of diesel fuel, oil and sweat, the paint and body shop was pristine.  Shelves stacked with neat rows of gallon cans of acrylic and lacquer paint, tint and mineral oil were arranged in such a manner that one would think they were on display for purchase.  Cans that had been opened were resealed and wiped clean with such care that they would easily pass for new.  Those were kept on a different shelf and arranged by type and color.

The rough concrete floor was swept out and hosed several times a day—whether or not a body repair or a paint job had been completed.  On another wall white coveralls on clothes hangers were hung on pegs.  None of them ever seemed to have been used as they shone as white as the day they had left the uniform factory.  There were at least twelve sets, each with a pair of shiny black rubber boots on the floor under them.

Hammers, anvils and other body repair tools were neatly hung on large black pegboard sheets, with each respective shape outlined in white paint.  In one corner a large fan sat quietly, its blades and motor casing gleaming in the sunlight streaming in from the windows in the roof and high up on each wall.  Six exhaust fans were built in to the back wall and kept the shop reasonably cool when not pulling paint vapors out into the hot Houston air.  Except for the sweetly faint aroma of lacquer one would be hard pressed to believe that truck bodies were actually disassembled, banged back into shape, reassembled, sprayed with primer and painted with countless coats of lacquer back to showroom-like condition.

At the end of each day when Red and his crew would trudge out of their shop smelling of whiskey and the kerosene they had used to wash the grease off their hands and bodies, my uncle Frank would emerge from his small wash room smelling of cologne and Vitalis; a smartly cocked fedora perched on this slightly balding head.  Whistling a jaunty tune he’d close and lock the large shop door, pull the canvas cover off his never more than two year old Ford, and ease slowly out into the Houston traffic.

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It was a fact that Younger Brothers Truck Line, Inc., paid the very lowest wage to their employees, offered no benefits whatsoever, and docked pay whenever any time was taken off for any reason.  My father worked for them for over twenty years, and when he finally left he was given absolutely nothing other than his last paycheck.  For the remainder of his life he survived on Social Security, payments for small odd jobs he did for friends, and a pathetic pittance he received once he was ordained as a minister for the Pentecostal church.

So how did he end up there?  And why would he continue to work for Younger Brothers anyhow?  We’ll talk about that in the next posting.

 

Stress.. (Part 2)

…Stress 2

 

In June of 1960 I graduated from Jeff Davis High School in Houston, Texas.  The occasion was hardly acknowledged by my parents as I had already been told not to expect them to pay for any type of expense associated with the event.  They were too committed to the church and any extra money would go there; certainly not to some frivolous and meaningless ceremony that would not guarantee their getting into heaven.

And so it was that my cap and gown rental and my high school senior ring were mostly paid for with money given to me by someone other than my own parents.  A kind of charity within family that actually caused me a great deal of stress and plunged into my heart a painful grudge-filled dagger that would take many years for me to remove.

Part 2

A few months before the end of my final high school semester a rare phone call was received at my house.  My mother having answered the phone, called for me in a highly unusual singsong tone that said, “Good news is on the way.”  Putting down my homework I saw that she had put the receiver between her breasts and was urgently beckoning me to her with a rapid waving of her free hand.

Whispering, while at the same time forming each word graphically with her lips, eyes and forehead, she said, “It’s your uncle, quick–quick!”

“For me?  What does he want?”

Eyebrows arching and eyes bulging she said, “I don’t know, but maybe….” and at that point she began to rapidly rub her thumb and forefinger together signifying that money was surely on the way.  The phone was forcefully thrust into my hand and I hesitatingly greeted my Uncle Frank.

Before I go on let me tell you a little about my uncle Frank and the rest of the DeLeón clan.  My dad was the youngest in a family of five brothers and one sister and because of the DeLeón family’s tendency to lead very private, solitary, and distant lives, I never got to know any of them really well.  Of all my father’s siblings I was only acquainted with three: Louis, the oldest, who with his wife Mary, owned a small grocery store in east Houston; Dolores, married to one Bill Byers, worked for Sears in some type of clerical job; and Frank, a widower who had lost a wife and two daughters to tuberculosis in the late 1930’s, and now lived alone. He worked for Younger Brothers Truck Line in Houston as a journeyman painter.  It was he for whom I’d been named.  Don’t ask why because I haven’t the slightest idea.

Lastly, there were two other brothers, Joe and George.  Joe, the second oldest brother, was a shadowy figure who was never discussed in our house.  Once, while rummaging through some old boxes in my mother’s closet, I came upon a picture, probably taken in one of those self photo booths, showing a round cherub faced little man dressed in an army uniform balancing a large blond woman on his lap. While she appeared to be panning an over exaggerated toothy smile towards the camera, his attention was seriously riveted on her rather large and mostly exposed breasts.  His cap was set at a precariously jaunty angle, and on his sleeves he displayed the rank of sergeant.  When I asked my mother who these people were she said it was my uncle Joe and one of his whores.

“Where does he live”, I asked, “and how come no one ever told me about him?”

“No one knows where he is, and we don’t talk about him because he’s not good people.  Now, put that picture back where you found it and don’t tell your dad that you know about your uncle Joe.”

I never knew I had an uncle George until one day my father came home from work and told my mom that his brother had died of a massive heart attack.  From overheard whispers between my parents I learned that he had been forty-four, worked at a steel mill in Houston, was married and had three daughters.  I don’t know if my father ever went to his brother’s funeral.  I know I didn’t.

OK, back to the story: Putting the phone up to my ear with my mom anxiously wide-eyed and edging close to me to try to catch any word slipping out from between the phone and my ear, I heard my uncle’s husky voice greet me.  He spoke with a sort of Jimmy Durante accent that all the DeLeón brothers, except my father, used, (when saying “church” it sounded like “choich”), and he quickly got to the point.

He asked if I was going to graduate from high school in June.  I told him I was.  He then inquired if I had already paid for my cap and gown rental whether I had purchased a senior ring.  I explained that I had managed to pay the deposit on my ring by using the wages that I had earned that past summer while working as a busboy for a local Mexican restaurant and the Shamrock Hilton hotel, but wasn’t sure how I was going to pay for the balance. I also told him that I probably wouldn’t be renting the cap and gown because I wasn’t planning on attending the graduation ceremony that was going to held at the Houston Coliseum.

“What do you mean you’re not going to the ceremony?’

“Well…,”my mind racing for a cover lie, “I really don’t want to go because it’s just a silly show, and they really don’t give you a diploma, it’s just a rolled up piece of paper.  They mail you the real diploma later.”  That had been my father’s line.  He used it to justify to me why I should skip the ceremony and instead go somewhere meaningful, like church.  I’d heard it so many times before that it just slid off my tongue like a well-memorized Bible verse.  I saw a little smile cross my mother’s face.

My uncle began to say something then abruptly stopped.  After making some noises that sounded like he was clearing his throat he asked if there was any way I could come to visit him at work on Friday.  I told him that we went to church every night, but maybe if I caught the city bus right after school I could make it there and back before I was expected to be ready to leave for church.  In any event I would have to clear it with my dad before I could commit to the visit.

“Choich, on Friday?  OK boy, you come see me this Friday before choich.” he said.  “It should take you about an hour if you catch the buses just right, so I’ll expect to see you here no later than 4 o’clock–OK?  It won’t be a long visit so you should be home by five-thirty so you can go to choich.  I’ll see you then.”

“But what if my dad says I can’t go?”

“He won’t, boy…don’t worry, he won’t.”  “Bye.”  And the line went dead.

My mother took the phone, placed it on the receiver and, flashing all her teeth said, “Well?”

“Uh, he wants me to visit him on Friday at work.  But, I told him we went to church and I may not be able to go.”

“Did he say anything about money?”

“No, he just asked if I had paid for my graduation cap and gown and school ring.”

“I heard you tell him about paying for part of it with your savings from your summer jobs.  That was stupid, because if he plans to give you money now it won’t be as much.”

‘He didn’t say anything about giving me money,” I said, getting a bit irritated.

“Well, why else would he want to see you?  It’s not like he cares about you . Anyway, you plan on going to see him on Friday and I’ll talk to your dad and make sure he’s OK with it.  I’ll even ask him to give you some bus fare.”

Well, a few days later my mother gave me a one dollar bill and told me to go to see my uncle on Friday.  Wow, someone had obviously greased some wheels big time.

After three bus transfers and an hour after I started my journey I arrived at Younger Brothers Truck line on Griggs Street.  The company consisted of an oily dirt and shell lot encompassing an entire city block and ringed by a ten foot steel chain link fence.  A few square flat roofed buildings that served as administrative offices sat to the left as I entered through the squeaky gate.  Each building was painted in an anonymous shade of gray with green tinted glass windows sprouting large rectangular AC units noisily dripping steady streams of extracted water onto the exposed concrete foundation below.

To the right three large silver tin buildings with large open rollup doors and high small windows near the top rose from the brown, black and gray hardtack.  Each tin building had its function spray painted on one of the outside walls: “Tires”, “Mechanical”, and “Paint Shop”.  The printing on the first two buildings appeared to have been made by some second or third grader, displaying a mix of upper and lower case lettering and curving slight lower towards the end, but the last one’s signage was immaculate.  That building, I knew, belonged to my uncle Frank.

The center of the property had various pumps, hoses and concrete platforms bulging out of the ground, and the rear seemed to have been reserved as a parking lot for trucks in various states of repair.  As I made my way towards the paint shop several roughneck type characters, dressed in grimy green or tan khaki shirts and pants–making their way to and from the tin buildings–greeted me with a quick “howdy” and a frighteningly accurate jet of brownish-green spittle shot at some invisible target on the ground.  A very large and very black bald man wearing a single strapped blue and white set of coveralls chopped off at the knees was bent over in front of the “Tires” building wrestling with a tire and rim larger than anything I had ever seen before.  As I passed he quickly turned his head.

“Hey there skinny little white person..ya lost?”

“No sir, I’m headed to the paint shop to see my uncle Frank.”

Breaking into a smile that exposed a never ending set of the whitest teeth, he chortled,  “Sir?  Little boy you don’t call me sir–I call you sir.  Get it, ya’ll?”

“Yes sir, um..I mean, yes…..sir.”

Grinning larger with huge beads of sweat pouring off his head onto his massive shoulders he said, “Hee, hee, you sometin’ else boy!  I’m Shine, what yo name?”

“Frank.”

“Frank?  Yo name Frank?  And yo uncle is Mr. Frank?”

“Yes sir.  Um, yes.”

“Dat too funny boy.  Go on now, go see yo uncle Frank.  Yo needs Shine to walks yo over dere?”

“No s..no.  I see the paint shop.”

“OK, if yo needs anyting just yells ‘SHINE’, and I come runnin.  Get on boy.”

“Bye…..Shine.”

As I began to walk away Shine turned his full attention back to the monster tire, throwing it flat on the ground and jumping up and down on it trying to break the bead from the rim.

Approaching the paint shop I began to smell the pleasing candy-like aroma of lacquer.  The shop was huge and the ceiling was at least thirty feet high.  On the back wall there were six huge exhaust fans running full blast causing a gentle cool breeze to breathe through the large front entrance.  As I walked through the door I saw a big green diesel truck gleaming in the subdued light of the shop.  It looked like it had just been built, announcing “PeterBilt” in chrome that shone like glassy crystal, paint smooth and flowing like green emerald ice, and rubber stripping laid in like soft black marshmallow.  It was absolutely the most beautiful vehicle I had ever seen.

Suddenly, from behind the truck a man appeared.  At first glance he looked like some beekeeper, dressed all in white from head to foot.  White netting flowed from his fedora-like hat down to his shoulders and his pants were tucked into his white military style boots.

Taking off his hat I saw that he was wearing some type of mask over his mouth and nose; and that came off next.

“Hey boy,” he said in that Jimmy Durante tone (buoy).  “Like the truck?”

“Yeah, it’s so cool.”

“Was a total wreck when I got it.  Had to rebuild it from the frame up.  Nice, huh?”

“Yeah”, I said with heavy awe.

“How was the bus ride?”

“Huh?, Oh, OK.”

He waved me over to a couple of folding chairs (white) against one of the shop walls.  “You thirsty?  Want something to drink?  I got coffee.”

“No, thanks uncle.”

“Well then, let’s get down to business.  So, you a smart guy and graduating high school, eh?”

“Yes.”

“Good grades?”

“Mostly.”

“Going to college?”

“No, we don’t have any money for college.  My mom and dad want me to go to work right away to help pay them back for the expense of raising me.”

“WHAT?”  (Sounded like “WAAAAAAAT?”)  “That’s bullshit.  Don’t tell them I said that.  They’ll be mad.”

“Don’t worry, I won’t”

“What you owe for the ring?”

“Well, it was fifty dollars and I paid twenty five down.  So I still have to pay twenty five to take delivery.”

“What about the gown and the cap?”

“Rental is five dollars, but I don’t need them ’cause I’m not going to the graduation.  For the school senior pictures I can borrow someone else’s.”

“No, no borrowing.  You need your own.  Then maybe you change your mind and go to the ceremony.”

“Well, even if I wanted to go, I don’t have a ride.  My dad won’t take me ’cause he’s got church.”

“Church? (Choich)  He thinks he’s pretty holy, eh?”

“I don’t know.”

“So, how much for the rental?”

“Five dollars.”

Looking up to the high ceiling of his paint shop he drew a long lingering breath and closed his eyes.  He sat there very still for a bit then opened his eyes and looked at me.

“You know, none of us ever finished school.  Your father went to the seventh grade and he quit.  He had the best chance to finish, but he quit.  Wanted to make money so he could do what he wanted to do.  Mostly, that was to drink and have fun while the rest of us worked.  But, don’t tell him I told you that.”

“OK, I won’t.”

He got up slowly, first putting his gloved hands on his knees and pushing himself upright.  Straightening up he took his gloves off and put them on the folding chair. Reaching into his right front pocket he pulled out a greenish-gray cylinder wrapped with a large rubber band.  He began to roll off the rubber band and when he had it off I saw that the cylinder was made up of paper currency.  He tucked the rubber band into his shirt pocket and peeled off a bill.

“Got change?”  He put a curled up one hundred-dollar bill under my nose.

“Uh, no,” I said as I unconsciously reached into my pockets with both hands and felt the bus ride home coins.

“He,he, buoy, that’s a joke.”  He chuckled.

“Oh, I didn’t know.”

“Well, you think (tink) this will cover your ring and stuff?”

“Yes.”

“Good.  Don’t show this to your father, or for that matter, your mother.  Hide it until Monday then take it to school and pay for your stuff.  Then have some fun with the rest of the money.  You young…you should be having fun.”

“OK.”

“I mean it.”

“OK.”

“Got a girlfriend?”

“No.”

“Well, you show the girls dis money and you have a lot of girlfriends!”  He laughed deeply and ended up with a coughing spasm.

Finally he cleared his throat and took a deep breath. “Well buoy.  I’m proud of you.  You did something we never did.  That’s good.  You won’t have to paint cars or trucks to eat, eh?”

“I hope not.”

“Good, now go home so you can go get holy with your father at the church.  The bus should be here in a few minutes.”

“OK, uncle.  Thank you very much for the money.  I’ll think of you whenever I look at my ring, and I’ll try very hard to get to the graduation.  Thank you uncle.”

“No thanks.  You deserve to enjoy this.  You earned it.  And, never mind what your folks say…I love you and think of you often.  Now go!”

I turned and started to walk out of the paint shop.  I think it must’ve been the sun hitting my eyes after being in the cool shade of the shop because tears began flowing down my face.  Never in my life had I ever cried unless I had experienced some physical pain.  But here I was, walking back out through that gritty oil soaked dirt lot half blinded by the sun and the flood of tears pouring from my eyes.  It was the first time in my life that I’d known that much happiness and gratitude all at one time.

Looking up I saw that I was approaching a concrete pad on which there was a gas pump, an air hose, and a water hose.  Putting the now wrinkled bill that I had been squeezing unmercifully into my pocket I reached for the water hose.  Bending over I let the cool water splash onto my face.  Even though it smelled a bit like rubber the water felt good and helped me control my emotions a bit.

Drying my face with my shirt sleeve I got my bearings and headed toward the gate.

It was after I had boarded the bus and had taken my seat for the long trip home that the reality of what was about to happen crept up my spine like a slow cold chill.

What would I tell my mother?

I began to shake.

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Ah, Stress, I Hardly Knew Ye…(Part 1)

A few days ago I read something curious on my Facebook page.  It was an entry by a young lady barely into her teen years, and it consisted of just one word: “Stressed”.  A couple of her FB friends quickly made comment entries such as, “What’s wrong”?, ” Why”?, and “Text me.”   No answer back, nor any further information as to the cause of the stress.  It just ended there.

But…my curiosity had been stoked, and I wondered what in her life had caused her to feel that she had to reach out to her social contacts to tell them she was stressed.  She was young, in middle school, and from what I knew had a pretty decent life.  Since she hadn’t appealed directly to me, or anyone else for that matter–and she hadn’t responded to the immediate queries–I was just left to wonder.

After thinking for a while I began to wonder about my life back when I was a young teen, and even younger, and tried to recall when I may have first felt what we would now define as “stress”.

For those of you who know me well and are familiar with my early years already know that at about age fourteen I began to have some pretty interesting experiences when my parents decided to return to that Pentecostal religion that they had unceremoniously left long before I was born.

Up until that fateful day my life had consisted mostly of going to school, coming home to do my homework, slipping out to the back yard to shoot hoops  on a raggedy-ass backboard and rim, and waiting for my mother to yell me back into the house for a lean dinner.  Then it was off to my corner of the house (I never had a bedroom–hell, I never had a space to call my own in any of our many rented houses) finish off any homework I had left to do, and finally go off to  listen to my parent’s only real earthly possession, the 1940’s vintage Philco console radio.  There, with the lights off and while sitting on the floor with my back resting against the wooden front of the large console radio, I would close my eyes and float off into the wonderful world of my imagination.  Thirty minute programs with names such as, “The Shadow”, “Gang Busters”, “The Inner Sanctum”, and “The Lone Ranger” (Hiyooo Silver, away…..), would take me to places I’d never seen, have me riding horses in dusty western towns, and soak me in mysterious intrigue and delicious mysteries.  All these imaginary voyages were taken as I sat quietly on the cold linoleum floor, and seen through my mind’s eye as clearly and vividly as if I had installed a seventy inch HD Smart Plasma 600 mHz TV into my brain.

Before my parents started dragging me to the Pentecostal church just about every day of the week my only recreation had been that old radio and my back yard hoops. Because my father had been drinking away almost every dollar that he earned as a painter/diesel mechanic, my mother and I weren’t left with any”disposable income”. What money we did have came was as a result of her surreptitious rifling through my passed out dad’s pockets after he had returned in the early hours of the morning after his all night binges.  The nickels, pennies, dimes, and the occasional crumpled dollar bill my mother found went for food mostly, then if able, a few clothes.  Bottom line, that pretty much made any outside teenage social recreation virtually non existent; and that included activities such as movies, dances, or even dropping by the local drugstore for a malt.  (Uh, we didn’t have a local drugstore in the barrio).

Oddly, I can truthfully say that I really didn’t know what I was missing.  It is often said that the poor usually don’t feel poor, and that’s the way it was for me.  It was what it was, and that was that!  No stress.

So, admittedly, the late 1940’s, all of the 1950’s and the early 1960’s were a completely different era in most areas of life.  The kids we now call “millennials” don’t have a clue, nor do I believe they are experiencing life in rich juicy technicolor as we did.  As I begin to bring the memories of those times back into focus  it’s clear that we were actually a pretty hip generation.  For music and general media-type entertainment most of us had radios (mono),  a privileged few had TVs (most with a tiny black and white screen), and most of us had telephones (black, large, and rotary dial).  Much like today my generation’s taste in clothing, speech and general swagger was highly influenced by pop singers, TV and movie stars, and to some degree made up on the spot by those more creative “cats” in their own little individual clan-like groups.  Hand-me-down words and phrases like “cool”, “groovy” and “you guys”, were imported from the previous generation and pushed on to the next; and overused phrases like “neato”, “hep cat”, “swell” and “rat fink”  were driven straight into hip-talk extinction (thank God).

Of course I vividly remember having some mildly harsh feelings towards those kids whom I considered the “privileged” (hep cats driving raked 1950 Fords and Chevys), because  I always had to ride the bus.  And bullying?  Yup, plenty of that for sure, and dealt with in one of several ways: be a patsy and get pummeled on a regular basis, or suck it up and attack the bully when he/she wasn’t looking then run like hell.  The second option usually worked pretty good as it sent the bullies the message that the skinny little freak could and would  hit back.  But then there was a third option that a few of us lucky ones had access to: Personal Bullies.  Robert was mine.

He was nine months older, way bigger, and knew to how to fight dirty (first you kick them in the balls then the rest is easy).  But more importantly he was insanely loyal to me for a couple of reasons.  First, we pretty much grew up in the same neighborhood, (thereby sharing a commonality), he’d never known his parents (lived with a grandmother), and was crazy envious that I had a real mom and dad, and oh, I also did most of his homework.  No big deal for me as he was taking extremely easy classes, but the stuff I did for him pretty much kept him at my beck and call.  Whenever I was threatened by some neanderthal I would sulk away quietly, then find and tell Robert.  Then, much like today’s Energizer Bunny, off he’d go–pointy shoes looking for nut sacks.  Most of the northside neighborhood we lived in, and that included an elementary school, a junior high and a high school, knew about Robert and his flying kicks and flailing fists.  He was feared mightily and by proxy, so was I.  Nope, no stress there.

Alright, so I would guess my first few experiences with stress occurred when report cards were issued.  I usually started worrying about the state of my grades around final exam time, but mostly I worried about the state that parts of my body would be in if I brought home a report card with anything lower than an “A” or a “B”.  You see,my mother only went as far as the 3rd grade and one of the things she retained in those three years was that “A’s” and “B’s” were good, and “C,D, and F’s” were bad.  I lived and died by that simple equation, and so by default that made me a pretty good student.  As someone very close to me once said, “Fear is a great motivator.”

The first time I had a mark lower than an “B” on my report card happened in the 6th grade.  It was a “C” in Science that had been reduced from an “A” due to the teacher thinking that I had cheated on a quiz.  I hadn’t cheated, and in fact had been telling the dweeb behind me that I was not going to give him the answer to number 3 during the quiz.  The teacher rushed over, took both our papers and smeared a big red “F” across the front.  That was enough to drag my final grade down.  Stress building.

So now here I was, getting off the bus with my report card in my coat pocket.  That semi-circle of a letter was oozing pure red fear; and as I walked the three blocks to my house my knees began to turn to jelly.  Regaining my balance after coming close to toppling over I heard one of the neighbor ladies call my name.  As I looked up I saw her coming down the steps from her porch asking if I was OK.  I stopped.  Then without even thinking about what I was going to say I screamed out:  “My mom’s going to SPANK ME BECAUSE I GOT A “C” IN SCIENCE!”  The last word trailed off into a wretched phlegmy whine, and big watery tears came flooding out of my eyes.

“Why is your mommy going to spank you?”

“Be..be..because I got a “C”…”  (Yowl).

“Oh, that’s no reason for a spanking. No, no, no she won’t.”

“Yes, yes she will”.

“Well, don’t worry.  I’ll walk home with you and make sure she doesn’t spank you”.

And so she did.  And my mom didn’t spank me….well, not until the lady left.  Then I got it really good.  So, maybe that was my very first really stressful experience.

Home life after my full  immersion into extreme Pentecostalism was, well, interesting.  Not having much to eat on a regular basis before we got religion came as a direct result of my dad’s heavy drinking problem.   He’d get paid on Friday and we wouldn’t see him until Sunday morning.  Usually he could be found passed out on the porch if he wasn’t too drunk, or hanging out of the driver’s side of his car if he had tied on a real bender.

After he found Jesus (really, I think it should be the other way around) he developed a new obsession.  Instead of throwing money away in bars he now tried to impress the brothers and sisters in the church with his extremely charitable nature by throwing what little money he earned on trivial bullshit like contributing excessively and extravagantly to the church fund to buy the pastor a new Buick every year.  My mother’s developing health problems, agonizingly painful kidney stones, and the resulting crazy expensive medical bills resulting from her hospital stays, brought on rip roaring high decibel arguments and really did the hokey pokey on my developing teenage angst.  OK, maybe a little stress there.

Because we pretty much lived in the poverty rut I never attended any football, basketball, or baseball games.  I never went to one high school dance or after school party.  Save for the symbolic membership in my school’s French Club (required if you wanted to take French), I belonged to nothing and pretty much didn’t socialize with anyone except maybe Robert.  Besides my thug friend I had no close or really even distant friends.  Lunch time in high school was spent on the front lawn of Jeff Davis High School usually with a small group of lonely girls who had also been outcast from school society for various reasons.  We didn’t talk very much.  Most of the time we just munched our bologna or pressed ham sandwiches in silence, buried in our common dejection.  I’m thinking a more low self esteem thing than stress there.

Health wise, I was a real mess.  Throughout my teen years I suffered from asthma, pus filled pimples and whiteheads, constant earaches, and a raging case of athletes foot.  For a couple of years in high school I contracted chronic jock itch which would, at the most inopportune time, flare up and demand to be scratched mightily and repeatedly.  When that urge subsided the athletes foot would start up.  Neither of these conditions would demand scratching  unless I was delivering a book report in front of the English 101 class, or reciting a Bible verse to Sunday School class at church.  Itchy stress.

Then of course there was the dating scene.  Actually for me, the non-dating scene.  As a teen I never had any kind of serious boy/girl relationship because (1) it was prohibited by our church, (2) I didn’t have any money anyway, (3) I wasn’t popular or particularly attractive, physically or otherwise, (4) our one phone was on a 4 party line, so any date making conversations that I may have wanted to have with anyone would’ve been discussed, dissected and distributed to my entire neighborhood in 1.2 nanoseconds; and (5) any dates would’ve had to have taken place at our Pentecostal church–so that the unfortunate girl could be completely exposed to the “love Jesus or die in eternal flames you sinning scum” sermon.  My constant thought: “I’ll never meet any girls and I will die an old maid”…stress.

But even with all that pressure I still don’t recall ever  having  to reach out to my social group (Robert) and scream, “STRESSED”!  If I had, he would’ve probably whipped out his switch blade, assumed his pointy shoe balls kicking stance, and screamed, “WHERE?”

So, having recalled all these experiences– I guess in a way–my way– I may have been, OK, maybe a little stressed, but I was just just too dumb to know it.  Also, and more to the point, my generation, and particularly the kids in my neighborhood,  just didn’t use that word as part of our daily dialogue.  The same for phrases such as ADHD, emotionally challenged, PC, culturally disadvantaged, and many many other current catch phrases and words.

Looking back at those colorful years I think we just tried to live the best we could and complain as little as possible.  We lived day by day without understanding that all those feelings of inadequacy, guilt, sorrow, fear, angst, pity, melancholy, sadness, anguish and dejection could’ve just been lumped into that one word: Stress.  But hey, who knew?

To be continued…….